10) Get in the kitchen b*tch*s, by Whipped and Beaten culinary works, Inc. NOT to be confused with the book on Amazon.com by Rory Freedman. This book that I am recommending has it's own website, go to link: http://bitchcooks.com/contact/. Don't be put off by the name, this book is for the absolute beginner and will take you up to making food well. Woman's movement not withstanding, you ought to know how to feed yourself! All people need this skill, this book is written in such a hilarious irreverent tone, you'll actually have fun learning!

9) 10 stupid things women do to mess up their lives, by Dr. Laura Schlessinger. Believe it or not I had the chance to read this book while I was still young and single. It came out in hardback, and I was too put off by the name. . . guess where this is going. . . I could have saved my self so much heartache and financial disaster if I had read and paid attention to the information in this book. Stop complaining about your boyfriend to your silly friends. Take responsibility for your life, put yourself in the driver's seat. You have discernment, this book will remind you not to ignore it.

8) Archangel, by Sharon Shinn. You want romance? Here it is. This book is sometimes filed with fantasy, science fiction and sometimes fiction, because its really a love story between two people and less of an other worldly fantasy.

7) Non violent communication, by Marshall Rosenberg. This is a book that will help you with all your relationships, even though it's not a book on relationships. This book will help you to find yourself, even though its not a self help book. This book delves profoundly into our use of language, and teaches a more authentic manner of speaking. This book may one day save your life.

6) The Holy Bible, give it a chance. It's gotten the bad rap about being long and boring and full of odd words, you owe it to yourself to read it at least once. Come on, aren't you the least bit curious about the book that has spawned so many wars? Be well versed. Much of Western literature pulls allusion from this book. The poetry is beautiful, the stories thought provoking, the history - well - not what you may think. I won't say more, I don't want to ruin the ending for you Christians out there.

5) Emma, by Jane Austen. This book is funny, full of irony and interesting characters. Emma is a strong willed creature before feminists existed, yet a silly girl coming of age at the same time. Austen's understanding of human nature has rarely been rivaled by other authors. She's a master of detail as well as a fine story teller.

4) Saving Dinner, by Leanne Ely. Like number 10, this is a useful cookbook. It shows you what to shop for and how to plan for a week. I think this is better information, more usefully presented than the average cookbook full of recipes. I used this book when I first got married and the family was thrilled to have something different every night. Most of the recipes are economical too. In this recession eating out is a cost to easily shifted to poor eating, and you don't want to do that. Poor eating will lead to a load of health problems later that will cost you more than the money you saved by not going to real restaurants. Learn to cook, and learn to feed people, it is a life affirming skill.

3) The Plug in Drug, by Marie Winn. If you have children this book is absolutely essential. Even if you don't read if for yourself, you're worth it. This book explores the implications of television and other passive view electronics. You may be surprised how much weight you lose when you lose the TV, for reasons that are not readily apparent. Winn, makes the point that time spent watching TV is time NOT spent doing other things. How much time would you have for yoga, the gym, loving your spouse and kids, home cooked meals, if you weren't turning on and tuning out? Find out!

2) Drawing on the right side of the brain, by Betty Edwards.You will be pleasantly surprised by your own natural talent. Apparently everyone has it. I thought I couldn't do anything beyond a stick figure until this book explained why to me. I felt so much better about myself. I think I re-routed some synapses in my brain at the same time.

1) What your doctor may not tell you about menopause, by John Lee and Virginia Hopkins. Actually may be no one will tell you. With all the beautiful people I see in the movies I could hardly believe the changes that started when I turned 40. Asking around my friends revealed how little we all knew. Don't be a victim! Education your self. If you don't advocate for your own health you may end up with breast cancer or brittle bones from some of the drugs the AMA pushes on women. Get facts, this book is a must read AND not the final word.