Keys to a successful relationship

In today’s fast paced world where information is just a click away, relationships have jumped on this warp speed track as well.  In our relationships, if we do not get what we want now, we move on to the next one…and the next one…and the next.  This has created a lack of confidence issues, a lack of trust among each other and a crazy divorce rate soaring at around 50%.  This rate would have been unheard of even ten years ago.  Why has this rate continued to rise?  What is our society doing wrong?  I think it is clear that we are treating our relationships like the other seemingly expendable items in our lives.  We want results now and if we do not get them, then we move on to find it elsewhere.  I think it is time to take a step back and see what each side of the relationship can bring to the table that will enable long sustainable relationships and marriages.

The most important part of a relationship is communication.  Communication is so elaborate that I could dedicate this whole article to the topic.  For the sake of time, I will just say that communication may be misinterpreted, misunderstood and lacking!  If there is something on our mind, we need to communicate to let our partner know.  They can then take corrective action or communicate back to better inform.  Without communicating, something can swell inside you and keep swelling until it eats at you and ultimately leads to separation.  If a couple is communicating properly, then a “team” is formed and the other half will become one of your best friends.  This is a beautiful thing to see!

Another important part of a successful relationship is doing something for your significant other, even when you don’t feel like it.  I know it sounds like a no-brainer, but a lot of people are selfish and find this ridiculous.  There have been several times in my relationship where I was tired at the end of a long day and my girlfriend requested a back rub that I had promised her earlier that day.  I really didn’t want to and was thinking too little too late in my head.  I stepped up and did it anyway because I put myself in her shoes and thought about her motivations and thought about the roles being switched.  The back rub made both of us feel great too.  This small gesture showed her that I keep my promises and  will follow through even when the event is pressing for me and I feel good to have helped her and released her stress so that she could get a good night sleep.   This one is ofen abused so judge accordingly.

I know any women reading this article will disagree but a strong sexual relationship is another key to a successful relationship.  This keeps the relationship fresh and fulfills the “animal” instincts in us all.  There are an assortment of sexual “encounters” that can be brought to the table here.  This does not necessarily mean missionary style until climax.  This can mean a number of different styles and tempos so explore.  This is normal.

I know I only explained three different items to help maintain a healthy sustainable relationship but the first one has so many elements that it could be its own article.  I wanted to highlight three key elements that all relationships need.  I want to end this with a piece of advice that seems so simple but proves so true.  One does not think of this until it is too late and a relationship has been built on all of the wrong things.  I was advised by a very wise man who someday, our body parts are not going to work properly and work the way that they once had, so you need to be able to talk to your significant other or your relationship will be inept.  Please keep this in mind for the long haul.  Communicate couples.  Communicate!!