Losing a loved one is an awful ordeal. There are quite a few stages of grief and the grieving process varies with each person. And I know everyone hates to hear it, but time is the biggest healer. Over time, you may not miss your loved one any less, but it will become easier to live your life without them.
I've compiled a short list of strategies to use in your daily life to help you get through this difficult time. Some are strategies I used and others I should have used, looking back on my own grieving period. We learn from experience and I hope what I learned will be a help to you!
- See a therapist. There's no shame in seeking emotional help. Therapy is beneficial in sorting out your feelings and facing your loved one's death head-on. Talking with a professional is a good choice as they aren't involved in the situation emotionally and can give sound advice.
- Find a support group. Supportive family and friends is wonderful and necessary, but you should also seek a group of people who have gone through the same thing. To socialize with people in a similar situation and listen to their stories will show you that you are not alone. You will see other members grow and find happiness and this will inspire you.
- Don't distance yourself from your loved ones. It is hard to face each day when you're grieving, but you need others around you and they need you too. It's easy to close yourself off from the world, so be careful and don't spend too much time alone.
- Control what you can. If you take care of things that can be managed, it will give you a sense of control over your life. Keep your chores up, your bills paid, etc. You're already too overwhelmed for words so it's best to keep any added stress at bay.
- Keep a routine. Your whole world has been turned upside down; a sense of normalcy in as many areas as possible is important. Go to bed and get up in the morning at the same time each day. If you take medication, especially an anti-depressant, keep it by your bed with a glass of water so you can take it first thing in the morning. Then get up and go about a routine of showering, eating breakfast, whatever you would normally do. This falls in line with controlling what you can.
- Learn to live as a single person if you've lost a spouse or partner. Don't hinge your happiness on having a mate. Love yourself and eventually learn to enjoy being on your own, so that one day when you're ready to date, you'll be strong and independent. Use this time in your life as an opportunity to get to know yourself.
- Find a creative outlet-writing, crafting, designing, whatever will make you feel good about yourself. You may even find something that will turn a profit, providing you extra income and a sense of accomplishment. If you sell your items, whether it's online or at craft fairs, it will open a whole new avenue for socializing.
The loss of a loved one is devastating. There is no quick fix for grief, but over a period of time, which is different for everyone, life will get easier. My wish is that these tips will help you along the road to recovery, even in a small way.
So you've got nothing to lose; go ahead and try a few things from the list. And always remember that you're not alone!