Additional Factors People Experience through Suicide
Experiencing the aftermath of a suicide can be one of the hardest deaths within the grieving process for families and friends. The realities of any death will bring about grieving and feelings of great loss and sadness and a contributing factor and causes of depression. However, with suicide related deaths this process is far tougher to comprehend, due to the additional factors that the bereaved have to endure. This can also bring about additional complications with how the loved ones and relatives grieve.
When there has been bereavement through suicide, the living relatives have to deal with not just the emotional impact of the loss of their loved one but additional difficulties with the legalities, media attention, police involvement and the ordeal of an inquest. This can take days and sometimes weeks, delaying any funeral proceedings.
Teenage suicides are usually highlighted by the media. Sometimes a child or teenage suicide will reach the national news channels, so communities within communities can become quite chaotic. Making the loss of a child much harder to understand and sometimes holding up the grieving process. This can also intensify the feelings of anger and guilt for these grieving because the media will jump on all sorts of possible reasons and connections to the Why? Bad news sells and with all the media reports come the difficulties of failing as parents can be heightened beyond any rationality.
When there is a teenage suicide it can intensify the feelings of blame and guilt. Parents can find themselves the topic of gossip within communities. Not only adding to the complexities of what they are experiencing but escalating the social aspect of having to face people.
There may be a suicide note that contains aspects of blame and reasons why the person decided to take their life. This can intensify resentment and guilt toward the person who has been named in the parting letter, as responsible. Even if the named person is not to blame and the argument or incident happened weeks, months or years previously.
This can impact relationships within the home and break families apart. These are additional pressures on parents when one of them has been named in a suicide note and the other has been apologized to. Suicide can be an act of revenge and a way to get back at a person, especially in the teenage years. Sadly teenagers do not have the emotional or mental maturity that death is forever and many are a cry for help, so accidental in nature.
There can also be heightened fears with suicide that family members can inherit the tendencies. Parents can also feel high levels of anxiety that siblings will following suit. These heightened fears can also being about worries of being over protecting and wrapping up the remaining living children in cotton wool, as a way to keep them safe.
The may not be a suicide note, leaving all sorts of unanswerable questions. The whys that will never be answered because the only person able to give answers, never will. This can leave the bereaved searching and looking for possibilities. The loved ones and family have to live with “What if” “If only” and the heart wrenching “Why”. Questions that will never be answered, so will forever remain unsolved. This can tarnish any positive memories that they bereaved have of their loved ones.
Suicide is one of the most complicated deaths to deal with. Accepting the fact that every human mature adult has the choice to take their lives and however hard it is to face they choose to die. It may take years to reach this conclusion an it may never be reached if it is a teenager suicide or sudden death of a child.