How many people out there would love to have a rainbow family? How many people find it hard to conceive? How many women would give a leg just to have a child they could call their own? These questions are somewhat rhetorical and at the same time, they do reflect the feelings of despair that people face when it comes to children. The desire to have a child can cloud good judgment and lead to wrong decisions. How do you know if you are doing the right thing when adopting a child?
Most people who have been through the adoption process, have said that the determining factor was holding the child in their arms. Others have added that it was the moment the child squeezed their finger or gave them a hug. Are those reasons enough to tell you if you are doing the right thing in adopting a child? At times, it is because adoption or most things that are related to children come from the heart. Most people just feel the urge to adopt a child. They cannot often explain why. Feelings are one of the most complex things in the world. When you think you are begging to understand it, you discover there is still so much to learn.
What if your feelings are wrong and you are adopting the wrong child? There are only two ways to find out. You need to find out as much as possible about the history of the child. Some future parents are just too afraid to and would prefer not to know. On the other hand, there have been parents who were aware of the child's troubled past but still decided to carry on with the adoption. Emotions often run high and decisions are made irrationally.
The other way to find out if you were wrong will be after the adoption is finalized and the child is living with you. That might be too late but there isn't much you can do about it. A lot of parents have been successful in their endeavor whilst others have had to put the child up for adoption again. Adopting a child is a gamble and it could go both ways. You could lose and you could win. You don't have a guarantee and birth children don't come with a guarantee either.
What could you do if you feel you have adopted the wrong child? You will have to do what most parents do when they feel they have given birth to the wrong child. They pray for divine intervention; they shed tears of despair; they seek advice and counseling; they hope that better times will come and finally, they never give up.