There is a wide range of adoption resources available for people wanting to find information about adoption.  Thanks to celebrities, adoption is in the news on a frequent basis.  From Angelina Jolie and Brad Pitt to Madonna, the image of adoption has changed, and it is for the better.

Adoption Resources-Books

There are many informative books about adoption for prospective adoptive families to read.  

The Complete Adoption BookCredit: Complete Adoption Book  by Laura Beauvais-Godwin and Raymond Godwin is a comprehensive guide. This easy to understand book is one that I read before my husband and I embarked upon the adoption process. It lists state-by-state requirements, how to survive the home study, and covers all of the different adoption choices (domestic, international).  It is a great beginner’s resource about all topics related to adoption.

If you are religious and want to read about how adoption is interpreted and treated in your faith, there are books on the topic.

Adoption and the Jewish Family by Shelly Kapneck Rosenberg is another book that was part of my adoption library.  It addresses Jewish beliefs concerning adoption, how Judaism honors adoption and the adopted child, how to share information about your child’s birthparents’ religion, and the conversion of your child (if you are not a Reform Jew).  It is an important book for Jewish families.

Another adoption resource book is one for Christian families. Adopted for Life by Russell D. Moore intertwines Scriptures and adoption.  He shares the journey of the adoption of his two sons from Russia.  It has garnered five star reviews from it’s readers.
Twenty Things Adoptive Kids Wish Their Adoptive Parents KnewCredit:
A fourth book that is a must read for adoptive parents is Twenty Things Adoptive Kids Wish Their Adoptive Parents Knew by Sherrie Eldridge.  Written from the perspective of the adopted child, it address issues that adoptees have, but may not feel comfortable discussing with their adoptive parents for fear of hurting their feelings.  

Although all adoptees may not have these feelings, some do.  They may feel abandoned.  Birthdays are a double edged sword-it is the day they were born, but they are not celebrating with their birth parents who gave birth to them.  

While this book has received some bad reviews because the author dwells on the negative side of things, it still should be read to open an adoptive parents eyes at potential feelings their child may have in the future.  Communication  with your child is key.

Adoption Resources-MagazinesAdoptive Familes MagazineCredit:

A wonderful magazine for parents of adopted children is Adoptive Families. This niche magazine is targeted for families waiting to adopt a child and for those who have already adopted.  There is up to the minute information about changes in adoption laws both domestically and internationally, as well as articles that typical parenting magazine do not have.

Adoption Resources-Parenting Forums

For people who like the anonymity of the internet, forums are a wonderful place to read and share.  Many parenting websites have infertility forums, so there is a prefect fit for you at one of them.

Adoption Resources-Professional Help

Your adoption agency should be your primary resource for all questions and concerns about adoption.  They should have the information you seek from their attorneys, social workers, and post adoption staff members.  Many have waiting parent seminars for their families so you can discuss what you are going through, how you are feeling, and what happens next.  Adoption agencies also have files of different articles to share with you.  They can also direct you to a professional therapist if you need to talk about more privately about the feelings you are having as you wait for your baby.

Adoption Resources-Friends and Family Who Have Adopted

One of the best adoption resources are friends and family who have gone through the adoption process.  While it is nice to have close people who are a shoulder to lean on, they do not fully comprehend what you are going through. Only those who have traveled on this path can fully understand your ups and down, your anxiousness, and the roller coaster of emotions that you are feeling.  Their words of comfort are not hollow, they come from a place of knowing.

One of the best words of wisdom that gave me great comfort came from a woman I met through my college best friend.  Both of them are adoptive mothers.  She said to me, “Your angel baby is still waiting to be born.”  It was true, except that in my case, it was babies!  I cannot imagine life without my twins.  In so many ways, they were my beshert babies-meant to be ours.  All I had to do was wait, which of course, was the hardest part.

These five adoption resources will help those who are involved in the adoption process get through it, as well as help adoptive families after they welcome home their child.