We all get angry.  Whether we encounter a reckless driver who cuts us off or we get into a heated argument with a loved one, anger is a part of life.  Uncontrolled anger can have serious negative consequences for ourselves and for those we care about.  Below are a few anger management techniques that really work.

#1 Take a few deep breathes.  Deep breathing relaxes the mind and can calm the spirit.  Inhale on a count of 1, 2, 3 and exhale on this same count.  Try to release the pent up emotions you have every time you exhale.  Deep breathing doesn’t completely make your anger go away.  It can and will help you to calm down and relax.  A calmer state of mind allows you to be in a better position to make a good decision about how you will handle the situation.

#2 Take your leave and get away.  Figuring out how to handle a situation should not be when you are angry.  Whether it involves disciplining your child or handling a situation at work, it shouldn’t be done in the heat of anger.  Removing yourself from the situation allows you to get control of your anger instead of letting your anger control you.  Once it subsides you can figure out the best course to take.

#3 Distract yourself from the situation that is making you angry.  Do something relaxing that will put you in a different frame of mind.  Go for a run or to a movie.  Channel that pent up energy into cleaning the house and then collapse into a hot bath.  Thinking about the situation over and over again will just make things worse.  If your anger is great it might be best to get a gym membership and release that angry energy in a good workout.  A side effect of intense exercise is the releasing of endorphins.  These happy hormones can go a long way towards helping you to cope with intense anger.

#4 Talk to someone who will calm you down.  When you’re upset you need the support of a good friend - someone who won’t stir up your angry feelings further.  They can help you identify the problem and come up with possible solutions.  When you are angry you need emotional support.  Feeling that you are not alone can also calm you down.  If you can, please try to see the humor in the situation as you discuss it with your friend.  Laughter can be a great antidote for anger.

It is worth it to seek ways to control your anger.  Often in anger, it’s easy to say or do things that you later regret.  These anger management techniques really work for me and I know that they can work for you too.