Are you a compulsive Shopper? Or do you know someone who might be?
Read this before you go shopping next time!
You are walking at the shopping mall and this time you’ve decided that you will just buy what’s on your list, but then you turn and you see that beautiful top at fifty percent off. You think to yourself: I can’t believe this price! What a deal! So you end up buying it and when you get home you feel guilty that you already have too many clothes and you don’t really need more. According to recent research, shopping too much or “Shopaholism” is a very common problem that has not been classified as an addiction or mental problem to date, but thanks to the movie “Confessions of a shopaholic”, this problem is getting more attention than ever. Also, you might be surprised to know that this problem affects both men and women. While women usually shop for clothes, men buy electronic devices. How do you know when shopping has become a problem?
Shopping can be a fun and exciting experience. Don’t get me wrong, I love shopping, I confess that a few times I’ve bought things I don’t need just because I felt the urge. I bet this has probably happened to you at least once. Thanks to TV shopping channels, ebay and many online stores, shopping is now more convenient than ever and It is easy to score good deals on most items. So, when people find themselves buying things too many things they don’t need, or when they end up owing thousands in their credit cards, that’s a sign that shopping has become a problem. So, why is it so hard for some people to resist the urge to shop? This can be due to several reasons. One of the main reasons people shop is to get distracted when they feel bored, worried, stressed, lonely, depressed, or when they feel the need to feel better about themselves. Over time, this creates a shopping habit that leads to a cycle: going shopping every time they feel bad. This negative habit can be compared to other habits like smoking, overeating, drinking, gambling and playing too much computer games. People do these things, in many cases, to get distracted from problems and to relieve feelings and emotions they don’t like.
When we go to school, we are taught math, geography, history and many other useful things about the world. However, school doesn’t teach us what to do with our feelings and emotions and how to deal with them in positive ways. As human beings, it is important to pay attention to our feelings and learn to satisfy them in positive ways so we don’t end up picking up negative habits to deal with our problems. For many people, shopping feels good and can provide a feeling of excitement, happiness, or confidence. But it is not the solution to our problems, and can only end up making things worse. And with our present economy, shopaholism is a problem that needs to addressed now more than ever. According to an article published in the Globe and Mail, Household debt in Canada reached a record $1.41-trillion in December 2010.
Before you go shopping next time, write a list of the things that you need to get and stick to it. If you see something that you like and it’s not on your list, then ask yourself: do I really need this? Chances are that if it’s not on your list, you don’t really need it. If you feel the urge to buy it, then go home and think about it. The urge will pass and then you will forget about it specially if it’s something you don’t need. Also, whenever you think of going shopping try to identify if you are feeling bored, sad, stressed, lonely, etc. If you can identify what you are feeling then you can do something about it instead of shopping. Write a list of positive activities when you can to relax or entertain yourself: exercise, take a walk, call a friend, watch a movie, read a nice book, listen to music. Nonetheless, if your finances are in trouble, there is hope. You can get credit Counselling to get advise on how to get your finances in order. However, It is also important to seek professional help to overcome your shopping habit, or any other habit you would like to get rid of such as overeating, drinking, smoking, gambling, and find out if there is an underlying issue that you need to deal with. Call a psychotherapist or Hypnotist who’s qualified and experienced to help you overcome your problem and get in control of your life.