When you look at a high functioning Asperger Syndrome child
he looks just as normal and playful as any of the other children his age. But when talking to a teacher about a child
with asperger disorder, she doesn’t always realize that the asperger spectrum
child takes things in differently. We recently had teacher to apologize because
Austin didn’t understand an eye exam the way the other children were. Austin is a loveable little red head, but as
he looks just like other kids, she expected him to react in the same way others
would, when having an eye exam. She repeated tasks several times getting angry
at him and he would get confused and accused her of hollering at him.
Understanding
Aspergers
Teachers have the attitude if he is so smart, why can’t he
understand things like other children.
He can go on for hours about his special little car and what goes on
with it and how it works. But to explain something his teacher wants in detail,
he can’t do it. At this point he will
get stressed and upset and no matter what you do; he’s not going to listen.
Behavior Difficulties
Many children with aspergers are also taking mood altering
drugs to help with their disability. Some children with autism are also diagnosed
with ADHD and other diagnosis too, like depression, and bipolar. Some children with autism sometimes take
medications to calm them down, and help with their mood swings. Medications for adhd like Stattera, or
Adderall have proven helpful for ease in the classroom and at home.
Some teachers have even gone to the point of thinking they
know him so well. Some teacher’s think they know all about asperger disorder,
and can change his behaviors; blaming behavior on poor parenting skills. There
are always those that are opinionated and will blame the parents for the causes
of autism. You really have to go through
it yourself to know how hard it is to deal with a child with autism. You’ll
find yourself in many parent teacher conferences during the year over your
child.
Asperger Children Not
Social
At times he won’t join in with activities with others
because they are too demanding for him. He has a lot of social anxiety, and
doesn’t react to children or follow the same social rules as other children.
Many times he comes home from school in a bad mood, and it reflects on his
siblings at home. When he says something he always speaks his mind, and is
always blunt, but he is taken for being rude and arrogant.
He has gets back at kids by spitting, or hitting or
expressing his anger, but he never knows why he did something. He can’t say he
is sorry, because he doesn’t understand why he is in trouble in the first
place, or why he did something. He has a
harder time at making friends; others see him as different as the other little
boys in his first grade class. He does want friends and has gone to the point
of giving away little toys to his friends lately, as a means of making friends.
Parent-Teacher Communication
All you can do when dealing with a teacher, is have lots of
teacher and parent communication so the teacher will understand more about
Asberger Syndrome. The childs teacher attitude reflects on the child too. There
are a lot of teachers that don’t understand about Asperger Disorder, or even
know what it is. It’s up to you to try to make them understand what you are
going through at home. The teachers assume the problems at school are brought
on by behavior at home. In reality, the child has trouble controlling his own
impulses.
Sounds as if you have worked with or lived with an Aspie! Parents need to know they have a lot of work ahead of them and that much of that work will have to deal with the school. My son does well at school (at least this year)but by the time he gets home forget any homework. Even if he has had a great day both with school work and socially, he just really has a hard time with family. Seems as if keeping it all together at school takes so much out of him that it becomes a chore to help him stay balanced at home. What most people don't understand is that like ALL parts of the Autism Spectrum Disorder, there are sensory integration issues. No one person will react to the same things. Lights that are too bright, sounds that are at a frequency that is irritating, too hot, too cold, too hungry or tired can all factor in to the childs behavior. These are just a few of the things that I have found in the last several months since my son (10 yrs old) got the Dx.
Thanks for getting this info out there!