How Should You Word a Bar Mitzvah Invitation?

Once you have selected the perfect invitation, you have to decide on the right Bar and Bat Mitzvah invitation wording.  You do not want to say too much, nor do you want to sound too schmaltzy.  The words you use should convey to the recipients the pride and happiness you are feeling about your child‘s upcoming simcha.

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Bar and Bat Mitzvah Invitation Wording…The OpeningIf both parents are still married to each other, then the wording on the  invitation should contain the word “we” or “us“.  The opening can be any variation of the following…It is with great pride that we…

It is with great pride and joy that we…

We would be honored to have you…

Please share in our happiness…

Please join us as our son/daughter…

It would be honored for you to join us…

Please share this special day with us as our son/daughter…

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If the parents are divorced, then the wording can be altered slightly to reflect this.

Jane Gold and Joshua Gold request your presence…

In the tradition of our people…(have names separated at the closing on the bottom)

Please join Sarah Schwartz as she becomes a Bat Mitzvah on… (parent names are on the bottom)

If one parent is not in the picture at all, then the wording “we” or “us” for two parents can be substituted with “I” or “my”.

You can also omit any mention of parents in the opening by using these phrases:

Please join me as I continue the tradition of my ancestors and become a Bar/Bat Mitzvah on…

I would be honored if you were to join me as I am called to the Torah on…

Invitation Wording…The Middle and Closing Once you have decided on the opening words for your invitation, then the next step is to work on the middle portion.  The first part will tell the guests who is being called to Torah.  You need to decide whether or not to have your child’s Hebrew name printed on the invitation.  If you are unsure of the proper Hebrew spelling, ask your rabbi or cantor to write it down for you so it can be given to the consultant.

The next section of the invitation wording will tell the date, time and place.  When including the time, it is very important to make it fifteen minutes before the actual start of the service.  People are always running late, even for important events.  When you set the time for five tardy people a chance to actually get there on time and not interrupt the start of the service.

You also need to decide if you want to use the actual words of the date or use the numbers, for example, two thousand twelve or 2012.  You also have to decide whether you are going to put the exact physical address of the synagogue in the wording or just the city and state.                                                                        

Here is an example…

It is with great pride and joy that we ask to you to join us

as our daughter

Rebecca Leah

is called to the Torah on May 5, 2012 at 10:15

Temple Beth El

123 Fernwood Road

Smithville, New York

The closing is rather simple, as it is just your name.

Sarah and Mitchell Goldberg

Choosing the right Bar and Bat Mitzvah invitation wording is important in relaying the information about your child’s most special day.  Always double check with a few other sources for typos and flow.

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