Good manners are not inherited, they are taught at home. Its also a fact that they are not much thought about until one comes across a person who does not have them. No parent will like their kids to be called 'spoilt ones'. Kids aren't borne with knowledge how to hold spoon and sit properly when they eat. Manners are means to display kindness and respect for other people. Parents should focus on one or two behaviors at a time so the child doesn't get overwhelmed. Mistakes should be corrected gently in privacy, and something right done should be praised in public. Parents should practice what they preach. Constant reinforcement by parents is the key to automatic good manners. The preschool years are the perfect time to start learning manners.

Let us go through some basic manners we wish our kids to follow.

To say "please" and "thank you"

When a guest gives your child a present, thank yourself on her behalf so that she remembers next time. Child will need a bit of coaching before she uses these on her own.

To greet family friends, relatives and strangers

To introduce them to you child and say "Hello" (if child is young) or show her how to shake hands with her "right" hand (or left if culture permits) and say "How'r you?" (in case of an older child).

Embarrassing comments

Instead of scolding child should be calmly told not to make the person uncomfortable by pointing or laughing at a person.

Table manners

Table Manners

A preschooler can learn how to use a napkin and avoid speaking with mouth full. If your child refuses to wash her hands, remind her to get rid of germs before she comes to the table. Toddlers will need help, older ones can do themselves. Scrubbing for 20 seconds with warm water should be done.

Child should be told politely to ask for passing a dish and not scolded if he reaches over to grab things.

Child should be taught to close his mouth when he feels the burp coming and say "excuse me" afterwards.

Child should be included in the conversation so that she stays at the table till her meal is finished.


If your child does not want to share and wait for his turn, set certain rules for him and his playmates. Warning should be given if rules are disobeyed or a time out, if necessary.