Strategies for coping with stress may not be sufficient for dealing with all types of stresses.  You need to build your resilience to help you deal with extreme or prolonged stress.  The strategies listed below can help you increase your resilience.  Pick the approaches that you think will work best for you.  Even the most resilient person in the world may be unhappy or worried some of the time.  However, knowing these strategies can help you bounce back from setbacks in your life. 

Take Care of Yourself - Exercise, eat well, and get enough sleep.  Find time for activities you enjoy.  Your general health is good, you are better able to deal with stressful situations.

Build a Support System - Develop good relationships with family, friends, and other people who will care for and listen to you. 

Take Action - Decide what needs to be done and act upon your decision.  Set short-term goals that you know you can accomplish.

Help Somebody - Volunteer to work on a project in your community or help a friend with a problem.

Confide in Yourself - Sometimes it is too difficult to talk with others about your feelings.  You can confide in yourself by writing about stressful events in your journal.

Go Easy on Yourself - When something bad happens, your response to other stressors may be more intense.  So cut yourself a little slack.

Put Things in Perspective - Look beyond a difficut situation to a time when things will get better.  When you talk about bad times, remember to talk about the good times in your life too.

Find a Hassle-free Zone - Find someplace where you can feel free from stress - your home, a relative's house, a community center, or the library.

Stick to Your Routines - During a major life change, keep to daily routines, such as a nightly conversation with a friend.

What if you try the many stress-management techniques described so far, and nothing seems to work?  Sometimes, the stress in your life becomes too overwhelming for you to handle on your own.  At those times, you may want to ask someone to help you with your problems.  Sometimes all you need is someone to talk to.  Sharing you problems can help you see them more clearly.  Just describing your concerns to someone else often helps you to uderstand the problem better.  Many people are willing to listen and lend support if you ask. 

  • A parent or another adult relative
  • A teacher, a coach, or a religious leader
  • A school counselor or nurse
  • A sibling or a friend

The person you choose to talk to may not be able to help you with your specific concern but he or she may be able to refer you to someone who can.   At some time in your life, you may want or need some kind of counseling.  Many specialists are available to work with people who need help coping with stress.  Some specialists are available to work with people who need help coping with stress.  Some specialists are trained to help you identify the stressors in your life and learn constructive strategies for coping with them.