We really should hang out sometime

Technological advances allow society to keep pace with one another. Technology also gives people more options to ignore one another. When you are ignored technologically it seems easy to make excuses for the other party. Here are pointers that allow you to keep your dignity when using technology to communicate with others.

Cellular phones make it easy to rattle your number off when someone suggests you "call them sometime." You eagerly type the number of the other party in your phone. How many times have you given your number to someone and never received a call back? After a couple of days, you text them and have a quick exchange. Afterwards, they will "get back to you." You never hear anything else. You were given a pity number. After you contact someone, give them an opportunity to make contact with you. If you hear nothing else from them, make no more attempts at contact. Do not appear to beg for the attention of that person. No matter how busy a person is, if they want to communicate with you they will make time.

E-mail is a fast, convenient method of communication. Modern cell phones are configured to receive mail from major carriers including Yahoo and G-Mail. After e-mailing someone if you do not hear back after a couple of days, drop one more line. If you never receive acknowledgment of your correspondence, do not sweat it. The days are gone when it was necessary for a person to retrieve mail from their home computer. You are being ignored.

Social networking sites allow people to find others they lost contact with decades ago. It is thrilling to be added to the "buddy" or "friends" list of a prior acquaintance or ex. If you post comments and send them messages and never receive responses-you are being ignored. You are not a social priority. Do not keep sending messages. Do not send messages to the other person asking why because it makes you look needy.

When contacting others, think about the impression you are making. Are you always initiating contact? Are you getting a response? Is the response you receive encouraging conversation? Or is it curt and polite? When the answers are not those you want to hear, do not make excuses and do not send angry messages. Just cut ties. Asking questions of yourself and answering them truthfully allow you to figure out if this person really wants communication. Once that is established you can walk away with your dignity and find others who are worthy of your time.