Dating: Why Nice Guys Finish Last

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obamor | May 27, 2010 |

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When it comes to dating there are all sorts of unwritten rules that are definitely important in determining outright attraction. Every woman is looking for a healthy level of surprise and challenge when it comes to meeting men. The problem with guys who are too nice is that they offer everything women want on a big platter without a fight. There is absolutely no challenge and often no innate spark when a woman knows for sure that a man is definitely interested. This is why many women are initially attracted to the bad boys, because they are surrounded by a mysterious attitude, and they make women put effort into being with them. Women may clearly realize that a nice guy will do anything they want, but this dispels the valuable chemistry that leads to uncontrollable animal attraction. You don't necessarily have to change who you are, but use this basic knowledge to be more confident and you may find more dates in your future.

Dating is an everyday part of life that can take years to get good at, and some folks might say no one ever knows everything about the world of relationships. A lot of people fall into unfortunate familiar patterns that lead to outright failure so it's important to understand a few basic rules. You have no doubt heard the statement that nice guys always finish last and this can definitely be true when it comes to dating. This doesn't mean that you have transform into an absolute jerk, but making sure you aren't too nice is a key to creating mutual attraction.

If you happen to be an all around nice guy, you don't have to give up all of your dreams that you will meet a woman who wants to your future soulmate. And you don't think you have to become a bad boy that cheats your partner and blames your behaviour on sex addiction or anything of that sort. You can remain a nice guy, but you might have to reserve it until you are in the deeper stages of your relationship. That's when outright sweetness and romantic gestures of love really become important. But when you are asking a girl for a date for the first time, try being a little bit cocky and use witty humour when possible. Don't make things absolutely easy for her so that she knows exactly how you feel about her. And by all means make certain to be respectful towards her, but add in a bit of unpredictable attitude and you may find yourself more popular than before.