Erase Your Anxiety

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The problem with stress is the fact that it does not like to take breaks.

    It does not cry. It does not buckle under pressure. You can try to frustrate stress, but you will be met with failed results. It is not possible for stress to waver. As a matter of fact, stress actually causes all of the symptoms and never seems to feel any. This is a problem for most people. There are a number of ways to deal with stress. One method involves identifying stressors and how they can affect people, avoiding stress altogether, and since stress can be the leading cause in a colorful assortment of diseases and medical conditions, we need to know how to kill the beast before it kills us.

    Stress is just a word, but can be read like a blanket statement. Scientifically, it is the effect of negative outside influence on the mind, not the brain; the two are often a source of confusion. Simply, when we feel pressured, confused, agitated, angered, nervous, or any other negative feeling that can be thought of, the cause is stress. Stress is when the boss sets a tight deadline that seems almost impossible to meet. Stress is a teacher lurking over the shoulders of students, watching them with a keen eye as they work and pointing out mistakes before they are even done. Stress is a roommate who refuses to clean up after himself. Stress is that girl who does not like that other girl her boyfriend is talking to. It takes on many shapes and forms, but can and will disappear just as quickly as it materializes. In order to reduce or eliminate stress, a plan needs to be set in motion, and any good plan has its priorities.

    The first objective, or priority number one, is to avoid. Avoidance is a key factor in making sure stress never even makes its presence known. Having a good plan is a key factor in making avoidance easier. It is a vicious cycle, but a necessary one. Goals need to be created. Goals give us a sense of accomplishment. When a goal is completed, we feel like we are making progress. Of course, the goals should be written down and read on at least a monthly basis. And, of course, as older goals are completed, newer goals are created. This is all a part of the preparation strategy. We are much more likely to be stressed by unpreparedness than we are by preparedness, so it only makes sense. But try as we might, prepared as we may be, stress will come around anyway. When it does come around, we need to know how to handle the stress we feel.

    This is where knowing what stress actually is really gives us the advantage over our opponent. If we know what causes the stress we are feeling, if we know what the stressor is, we can enact a plan to remove it, or at least reduce it to a manageable level. For example, the stress caused by an untidy roommate can be directly traced back to that roommate. However, we should not be so quick on the draw to point the finger at somebody else. Maybe it is not the roommate who is too stressfully dirty, but the stressed individual who is too clean. Quickly blaming and pointing fingers can, and often will, create more problems than it solves. In another example, that girl who seriously dislikes that other girl to the point of violence; the stressor is not a person, but a conflict between two people. In order to deal with the stress, the conflict must be dealt with.

    Stress is sneaky and conniving, but it has one major flaw: the inability to adapt. It is not a living being, it does not think, and it cannot formulate a plan of attack. The most important fact to remember is that stress is created by you, the stressed, and can be destroyed by you. With a method of attack and defense, all of this is possible. Stress bows at your feet and you are its champion, until it comes back for another round.