Each person has their own ways of coping with life-changing events.
After I damaged my car on June 9, 2011 while I was driving from work (left at 4 pm) to go home, something unexpected occurred to my mind. I had to deal with an episode of depression, which wasn’t a novel concept to me. It should not be a surprise to be in a depressive state because being part of an incident involving car(s) colliding with other objects could be traumatizing. I even had little bit of trouble concentrating while working. It’s not because it happened after work.
I Have Seen a Mental Health Professional
As I am writing this article on paper on June 20, 2011, I feel better because I know how to cope with it due to my experience with seeing a psychotherapist. That person told me that in order for me to feel better about myself, I just need to talk to people. Just talk. Just chat. I implied that includes to communicate by writing. I also applied that same concept to talk to anyone so you get assistance with the goal of feeling better. It could be a difficult task for me since the psychotherapist analyzed and diagnosed me as a sufferer of Avoidant Personality Disorder, which is essentially an extreme case of shyness.
I’m sure the antidepressant drug that I’m taking, Citalopram (generic of Celexa), has helped me to cope with the loss of my car. That medication is qualified for the reduced price of $4 at a Target Pharmacy Store. I haven’t experienced any side effects since I started taking it about two years ago. Before that, I used to take a lot more prescription drugs.
I told people that it was my fault that my car was damaged. I had to be brave to share my story with others. I was willing to be vulnerable to fall victim to verbal attacks from others. I survived one attack. It wasn’t so difficult with others. There’s another certain person who may be hostile to me if tell her, but at least I feel more comfortable talking about it. I fortunately had Ron Shaw, Jr talked to me, because I felt better after he gave me an advice.
Not Much Fun to Be With a Particular Person
There is a person whom I am not fond of talking about my car. I did that believing it could only help me as part of my therapy to talk. This person is not admirable to me because I conclude he’s extremely critical, deemed too negative for me, and he seems to be ungrateful. Anyways, it turned out to be not a big deal to talk to him about what was on my mind. He does have cognitive skills that could be helpful.
It’s humorous that the guy I don’t like didn’t say “I’m sorry for what happened,” he said, “That’s a shame.” So, am I supposed to be shameful? I was not offended by his innocuous comment because he’s not a psychopath. I laughed to myself as I was writing about him.
Born to Communicate
Another reason to talk to people about any of your worries is that humans innately have the yearning to communicate with each other. That’s what I learned from my psychotherapist.
Signs of Distress
After the car incident, I noticed I kept on lowered my head and used my right hand to run on it from the facial part to the top of my head for only one stroke. I also made the same face over and over as I closed my eyes and moves some muscles near my mouth. Lastly, I rubbed my eyebrows by moving my fingers of my right hand from left to right and vice versa.