Preschoolers are ideal candidates for discipline. They are at that age where their patience is short, they are learning what mine and me actually mean and they can understand manipulation. Successfully disciplining preschoolers can try your patience as an adult.
There are effective ways to accomplish discipline at this age and this is an ideal age for the child to learn self-control and positive acceptable behaviors. They are preparing to go to school in an environment where control and self-restraint is appreciated as well as needed. Unfortunately, the “terrible twos” don’t stop exactly on that third birthday. They may have a tendency to attempt to hang on. As a parent it’s your job to make certain that the “terrible twos” are constrained. You can accomplish this through positive discipline.
These are techniques that can be used to discipline your preschooler in a positive manner;
Preschoolers love to be praised. Praising preschoolers for every action of positive behavior that you can observe can go a long way in creating positive actions and outcomes. This technique along with others listed here will work for disciplining your preschooler
- Positive language
Positive language when inappropriate behavior is performed is better than negative language. For example, instead of hearing no, no, no. don’t do that. Stop doing that. Positive language would be I like it when you do this…. You are a good boy when you do that….instead of this, do that…… this is an example of positive language being used for discipline.
- Kindness charts
Charting and rewarding good behavior is wonderful. Hang the chart on the refrigerator or any other place that can be seen by everyone, especially the preschooler. When an act of kindness or good behavior is performed a sticker or reward is indicated on the chart.
When the chart is created you can list the positive behaviors that will be rewarded or you can reward the behaviors as you go along adding any behavior to your chart. Displaying these prominently will generate conversation by visitors and family alike. They will ask what the chart is for and you can explain this is positive behavior rewarded for your child. Children enjoy this positive attention and they will be praised by family and friends for the positive behavior they have displayed.
- Remain calm
This is much more easily said than done. Imagine they have poured their grape juice in the middle of your new living room carpet intentionally or hit your next door neighbor’s child over the head with a big truck simply because he was there.
Many times your natural reaction is to speak loudly and in anger to stop the behavior. However, if you remain calm and explain why the behavior is negative and shouldn’t be done it may help in the preschooler understanding and absorbing what is being said. When speaking in anger there are times that all they hear is the anger in your voice and not the words that are spoken.
- Always provide examples of good behavior
Whenever negative behavior is displayed, always provide examples of good behavior. If all they hear is no, don’t do that. It’s quite possible they may not know what to do. Always provide examples of good behavior and what you expect them to do
Utilizing one or a combination of more than one of these hints or tips of disciplining your preschooler can work for you. Prepare them for the world ahead with positive and constructive manners and behavior for their futures.