The French word used to refer to a date is "rencontre"; visitors planning on traveling to Paris to meet French singles should learn this word and become familiar with basic conversational French as well. Before planning a romantic rencontre in Paris with a charming local single man or woman, there are several things visitors must consider. Most importantly travelers should know that the dating culture is more secretive and private than Western culture. The French are a romantic and chivalrous people, making their date outings times for conversing and learning about the other person rather than seeking entertainment. Since French dating culture involves both sexes displaying flirty behavior, visitors may become confused about what signals are being sent by their Parisian date.
Simple flirtatious words and gestures in French culture are sweet and
tender, often mistakenly interpreted in a more blunt Western culture as
sings of sexual interest or even love. Parisians are polite to their
dates, often to the point of sending the wrong signal. To avoid a
botched rencontre, both men and women visiting Paris should be familiar
with French body language and gestures which are relevant to a Parisian
rencontre. Body language is not deliberate like flirting and is the best
way to determine if a Parisian date is truly interested or simply being
polite. Here are several Parisian gestures and body language signs
which are helpful for determining important signals and unspoken
Arm gestures - Parisian women and men who fold their arms are showing a
sign of boredom. Dating partners from Paris who quickly wave one arm in
an abrupt motion frequently while talking may be eager to go home and
have likely lost interest. When women move only their forearms, keeping
their upper arm close to their body they are uncomfortable and are
showing a sign of distrust; oppositely a woman who raises her elbow
frequently to touch her face or hair is very interested. Raising the
elbow usually shows that a woman is content, comfortable and definitely
enjoying the rencontre. Also Parisian men and women who keep their arms
open instead of folded while facing their visiting date are showing
signs of interest.
Leaning - Visitors to Paris will often be able to determine if their
date is interested by the direction in which they choose to lean.
Parisians who are interested in a partner will lean toward that person,
or toward their sides. Leaning back shows a lack of interest, not deep
thought or intrigue as it may in Western cultures. Coupled with the
folding of arms, this is a signal there will likely not even be asecond rencontre to look forward to.
Lip Touching - This is a form of body language expressed by women.
Parisian women who touch their lips, put on lip gloss or perform any
other frequent actions drawing attention to her lips are showing a
subliminal sign of deep interest. One important thing for men to
remember is that this is not an invitation to kiss her; she is likely
unaware she is doing this. Kissing on the lips in French culture is
reserved for later when a man wants to show that he is ready to fully
commit to or even marry the woman. Men and women alike should always
avoid attempting a lip kiss on the first date. Cheek kisses are a common
gesture that is completely acceptable though, meant as a greeting or
Nose Tapping - Men or women visiting Paris and taking a local single on a
date should avoid talking about themselves excessively. French
residents are very complimentary and will often tap their nose in
response to hearing about an accomplishment. If a visitor notices this
gesture more than once, it is likely beginning to bore the Parisian and
the conversation should be redirected to ensure a second rencontre will
Physical Touch - Both Parisian men and women will touch their date
gently on the arm, shoulder, back or leg. Touching is simply a way to
show amusement or interest. Excessive touching is likely a sign that the
date is having trouble understanding the conversation. Touching should
never be mistaken as an invitation for sexual advances. Parisians are
very respectful and deserve the same, so sexual advances should only be
made when a man or woman wants to marry their dating partner.
By keeping in mind these simple body language expressions and gestures,
visitors planning a romantic rencontre will avoid offending their
Parisian date. When a date starts showing signs of disinterest or
confusion, it is best to attempt speaking in French and turn the
conversation to focus on the Parisian date's hobbies, likes and
dislikes. Parisians enjoy life and love, embracing both. Showing respect
and interest in their lives will win their approval and affection.