What Do You Do When You Have One?

What do you consider to be a good friend? More importantly, the question that should be asked is how you make friends with someone. Do you make friends with someone who just happens to work with you? Do you make friends with someone because you actually live right near each other? Do you even have a standard for making friends? If so, then that will be nice and dandy because you at least you have the choice of deciding who your friends are. In fact, how would your life be if you could precisely decide who your friends are instead of inadvertently befriending just because they are there? Why is it important to have friends that you can depend on anyway?

Well, consider this. Is there anyone who ever supported you? By supporting, I mean in ways of telling that your idea is great and it was GREAT. Sometimes, by "supporting", they tell what's wrong with your idea and how you can improve on it. Friends who don't support you often end up lying directly or manipulating that your idea  isn't good or that no one, in their right mind, would ever support it. Although this rarely happens but bad friends can often mislead you into believing that your lousy idea is a great one even there's horrible defections among that idea. (This is very rare because most friends would be your cheerleader even if your idea is horrible out of morality.)

Say, that you always wanted to do something with your life like travel the world and you decide to tell your friends that you're going to do this. They say that it's an idea but you decide to travel the world and they decide to pull you away from this. It's one thing if they did their research and they KNOW that what a bad idea it is. It's another if they will try to manipulate you and if you have "friends" who really don't want you to see the world then they may even go as far as halting your flight by making you late.

How do you know that you have a bad friend? Do you feel better around them or worse? Is it good for you to hang out with them in the long run or short term? (It's always better to opt for the long run.) These are the basic simple questions you ask yourself if you have a bad friend. You can't judge this by just one occasion but a number of occasions and events are a better judgment. Though you hold on the belief that they can change, you have no other option but to see to rely on concrete results that they are dealing with the issues in their life and not projecting them onto you.