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Do's And Dont's Of Potty Training

By Edited Nov 13, 2013 0 0

The commencement of potty training your little boy is indeed a landmark, not just for him but for you as well. It is a sign that your baby is now taking his initial steps in becoming a little self-sufficient person. But just like any other landmark in your child's life, your potty training experience will be filled with many tests of persistence before finally succeeding.

Here are a list of tips, tricks and strategies from other parents and experts who have already gone through the experience of potty training boys. These DOs and DON'Ts will help making potty training a less strenuous and much more pleasant experience for you and your child.

The DOs of Potty Training Boys:

Do consider switching to training pants.

One of the things that you ought to consider getting before starting the potty training are training pants. These are usually quite effective tools in moving your boy from diapers into proper underwear, while still providing some protection from leaks. Your boy’s improved awareness of being wet or soiled when wearing training pants can stimulate him to use the potty more quickly.

There are numerous types of training pants, you might opt for the disposable or washable kind. Here are some of the facts about the two kinds of training pants. Both types mimics to some degree the sense of real underwear to help your child transition down the line. They are also thick enough to safeguard surfaces from accidents.

Disposable Training Pants:

Convenient, just throw it out after use.
Are usually expensive, you'll want to keep a stock close by.
Materials used may not be as close to the proper underwear in contrast to the washable variety.

Washable Training Pants:

More affordable.
Absolutely no need to worry about running out of supply.
A lot more laundry!
Made of material that is more likely to be closer to the appearance of real underwear.

When potty training boys many parents move straight from diapers to normal underwear without using training pants of any sort and have positive results but it is worth considering any tools that can help.

Do try to make recommendations in the right way.

In order to make the potty training with your child successful, you have to make certain you do it straight away. It should feel normal for the child and not made to seem like an imposition. Otherwise, the child may well resist the training in general, purely owing to the way it was suggested.

It's a good idea to suggest the topic of potty training to your child in a way that he will enjoy, like integrating it into his established bedtime routine followed by story-time or letting him watch cartoons that incorporate the topic of how to make use of the potty. The strategy is to make him curious enough about potty training to want check out how it is to use the potty himself.

If there are outbursts, tears and resistance happening, immediately stop the training and reassess the situation and your plan. Continuing with it might be a miscalculation that can waste your time and effort and lead to aggravation.

Do bare the bottom when possible.

This is particularly appropriate during the first few days of the potty training. It will lessen the difficulty of the task for the child if he doesn't have underpants to deal with. Once he has learned the basics, you may eventually move on to him wearing training pants or his new underwear.

Do keep the bottom accessible.

One of the most important things you can get for your child during the potty training are clothes that they can easily take off or undo when they feel the desire to go potty. You have to remember that at this time, your child’s motor skills are still developing, which can make taking off his clothes a bit challenging as it is, never mind in a rush to the potty. Also his physiological development is still not that good, making controlling his bladder or bowels tricky as well, in particular when trying to concentrate on something else like getting undressed.

Some of the things you must take note of when choosing clothes during this period are:

Avoid clothes with buttons that are tough to open.
Choose clothes with stretchy waists, that are loose and easy to wear.
If buttons are inevitable, get the ones with snap on buttons or Velcro closures instead.
Avoid one-piece suits and coveralls at this period.

Do watch the toddlers habits and body language.

You will need to observe the habits and body language of children and watch out for how they behave when they need to relieve themselves. Your boy will behave in certain ways and exhibit certain behavior when he is fighting the urge to go. It is essential to monitor and be familiar with your child's pre-toilet habits and body language in order for you to begin his potty training.

Here are some typical signs that are displayed by boys needing to go potty:

Underwear or pants tugging/pulling.
Standing upright with crossed legs.
The distant gaze or look of concentration.
Moving/swaying continuously from side to side.
Hands and fingers clasped and squeezed in between the legs.

Do watch the clock to discover patterns.

Especially at the beginning of potty training boys, you might want to watch and note the times and see if there is a standard pattern on which he has to go. From there, you would be in a position to anticipate when you can successfully lead him to the toilet during the day until it becomes a regular routine. Stick with the time schedule if possible and let him have a seat on the potty to do his business. Even if he does not, still give praise and enthusiastic remarks about being a good boy.

Listed below are the recommended times that you need to include in your timetable about when you should lead him to sit on the potty:

After rising each morning.
Prior to nap time.
Right after nap time.
Prior to going to bed at night.
Before leaving the house.
When arriving at home after an outing.
Any other observed times from his normal daily pattern.

Do give your child freedom to visit places, but take the training along with you.

The goal of potty training boys is to ready your child for daily life and so that he can be willing to go to the toilet in various situations. It is suggested that you gradually extend the potty training beyond the boundaries of your home. When heading out shopping to the mall or visiting friends or family in a different house, go with him to the toilet and encourage him to go, even if he is still wearing diapers. This way, he'll learn how to go in different places and in different kinds of toilet and won' be put off by different surroundings.

Do try to demonstrate using a dolly or toy.

The simplest way to make children understand the meaning you are trying to share is by being visual. There are a variety of specific dolls available that can be used as an aid when potty training boys. By using one of these anatomically correct dolls, you can teach the child the parts of the body where he is likely to feel an urge when he needs to go and as most of these dolls come with a toy feeding bottle or toy food, you can illustrate how going to the potty is related to eating and drinking. If your child can relate more to his own stuffed toys or maybe even action figures, then they can be used as substitute to the potty training doll.

Do try turning on a tap.

If you see that your child is having a difficult time relaxing or urinating, use a few motivational techniques that might encourage him to go. Turning on the tap can often actually work or singing his favorite songs, even just having a casual conversation about the day. This can relax his body and mind and help him let go.

Do praise accidents as good practice.

Use compliments and reassurance not just for the right things your boy does but also use it to make him feel happy for trying even when he has an accident.

Do stay enthusiastic.

For your child to be kept excited and motivated, you need to be excited and encouraged yourself, even when you don't in reality feel like it. A positive mindset is crucial for a successful potty training experience.

Do reward and motivate.

Finding out how to do the right thing by means of motivation and reward is the most effective way to potty train boys. When children associate a certain behaviour with a reward they have a tendency to want to repeat the act on a regular basis. A good way to practice the reward system is by giving your child a reward like a favorite toy or a treat when he actually uses the potty. If your child resists or has an accident, it is best to give positive reinforcement to them rather than getting angry. Positive reinforcement is a great way to motivate children.

Do have your toddler check their own condition.

A good method to jump start your potty training sessions is to teach your boy the distinction between wet and dry. There are a number of fun ways to make this an activity a fun and learning experience for you and your child:

Start with dry shirts or socks or underwear and let him feel how it is to the touch. Then wet them and let him feel it again. Or even let him put it on briefly. Talk about what feels better to wear, the dry one or the wet one?

Try to encourage him touch various everyday objects that are wet and dry. Like a puddle of water on a kitchen counter compared to a dry counter or wet/dry sand in a sand pit. Even wet and dry grass in the park.

Get dry and clean training pants and let him feel them. Then run them under the tap and make him feel it again.

Do have patience.

Patience is indeed a virtue, particularly when potty training boys. Hurrying or pushing your child to learn will only lead to failure and resistance. It will come together in its own good time.

Do teach about personal hygiene.

A major part of the whole potty training experience is to encourage and maintain good hygiene. Make sure to show your child how to properly wash their hands after a trip to the potty. If they are able, be sure to teach them the right way to wipe themselves clean and dispose of used tissue or wipes.

Do explain what's going on to other people.

When potty training boys within the household you will have to get the cooperation and commitment of the whole family. Each member should be involved in the process to make sure that the child will be able to count on support during his potty training. Part-time carers, child minders etc can also encouraged to take part in this activity.

The DON'Ts of potty training:

Don't expect too much too soon.

Impatience can stem from expecting too much too soon with progress when potty training boys. Just like walking and talking, it requires a considerable period of time and lots of practice to perfect. Each child's learning ability varies. Most take several weeks others may take many months and there are usually set-backs along the way.

Don't scold punish or shame.

The fastest way for you to make your child reject potty training is to get mad or humiliate them for any accidents that they might have. Scolding does not help either. It will just make them too worried to continue their potty training because they will be scared of making mistakes.

Don't deny or withhold food or drinks.

It shouldn't be necessary to refuse the child any food or drinks so that you can control his need to urinate or defecate. Not only is this technique a risk to the child's wellbeing but it is also stopping him from learning how to use the potty normally, as he would in his everyday routine. Which is the main objective of potty training.

Don't use unnatural or medicinal methods.

There is absolutely no need to make a normal healthy child take anything unnatural or medicinal to stimulate the need to go to the bathroom. The goal of potty training is to acquaint your child with the daily toileting routine and ultimately allow them to deal with it on their own. Adding unnatural means will defeat the objective of the process. If you are concerned that there may be a medical condition behind poor progress in potty training or other physiological issues please seek medical advice.

Don't nag.

Nagging is one of the surest ways to turn off the child in pursuing the potty training sessions. Keep it breezy, light and fun, so that your child will be motivated enough to stick with the training.

Don't force the child.

There is no way that you can force your way and get the good results you want. Good timing is the only factor that will determine the success of potty training.

Don't make it a bad or good behavior.

Staying positive throughout the training will be most helpful in seeing it to the end. Choose affirming words at all times. Example: Never say bad or good behavior, opt for ready or not ready as an alternative.

Don't have big discussions regarding success or otherwise in front of the child.

Children are much more socially aware than you would imagine. They know or feel if they are the topic of a conversation. Make sure that they do not hear any negative conversations about the potty training. Particularly if it involves discussions concerning the child having mishaps. Be sensitive to hurt feelings and possible short-term loss of self-confidence. This is much more important than just a dry bottom.

Don't make it a battleground.

If there are tears, tantrums or angry reactions, immediately stop the training. Take a step back and change your strategy and see if you can come up with a new one that may be more effective and pleasant for the child.

Don't give up.

Your child only has you to depend on to show him how to be independent and use the potty properly. There could be many accidents, regressions and obstacles along the route. But combining patience and love will surely help you achieve the successful end to your boy's potty training experience.



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