It is unfortunate that teasing and ridiculing have become a part of growing up. No matter where it comes from the teasing is very hurtful, and it don't matter if you're a small child dealing with school bullies, or even an adult. But when someone keeps it up just for spite it is called bullying. When it comes to a bully it encompasses so many different behaviors.â€¢ Verbal â€“ Mainly teasing, name calling, and threats.
â€¢ Psychological â€“ Excludes children, but includes spreading rumors
â€¢ Physical â€“ Hitting, pushing, fighting, and taking possessions
Girls are Bullies Too
Girls are more subtle, and not as direct. They will be mean, yet quiet, making rude noises, or facial expressions. Girl bullies make remarks that are mean and hateful, pretending they didn't mean what they said. When it comes to boys they are more physical they push and shove. At the same time one minute they are bullying each other and then their best friends.
Teasing and Bullying is Learned
Being mean to others has no cultural
difference, race or socio economic circles, it affects us all. Teasing and
bullying is learned from an early age from other children, adults, and even
television. Children are easily hurt by the teasing and ridiculing, whether it
at school or home. It can cause long lasting problems that can go with them
Abuse Becomes a Cycle
Unconsciously parents repeat what was said to them as a child to their own children, who become sibling bullies, and then there is a cycle that begins with them at home. It don't matter if is home or school "words hurt" if they experience put-downs continually they are going to be hurt psychologically, sometimes following with them the rest of their lives. Those that do the teasing and bullying are insensitive and careless of feelings of others. They just like to be powerful and in control and become defiant of anyone that speaks wrongly of their actions. The victims of teasing, and bullying are usually shy, weaker physically, and with low self-esteem whom find it hard to stand up for themselves.
are witnesses to such actions can become traumatized as well as the victims. They have feelings of guilt for not helping.
Effects of Bullying
Children react differently, but you may see changes in your child if they have been affected by teasing or bullying by another child. It will affect them psychologically or emotionally. Some children don't want to reach out and ask for help, because they are afraid. Victims have trouble with school work, and concentrating, and usually have a drop in grades or quality of work will be a clue, that something is wrong.
They worry all the time about having friends, or have depression and low self-esteem issues; if it keeps happening they will have no interest in school. It will continue into adult life, all started because of how they were treated as a child being bullied or teased, making it hard to cope at times in their personal or professional lives.
Even the bullies have dilemmas as adults; they don't know how to have positive relationships. They tend to form bad influences in their life such as abusive relationships or use of tobacco, drugs, and alcohol.
Teasing, and bullying effects all children in the classroom, even the ones that weren't involved. in school bullying. The children that are witnesses to such actions can become traumatized as well as the victims. They have feelings of guilt for not helping.
â€¢ Passive or withdrawal
â€¢ Frequent crying
â€¢ Complaints of stomach aches or headaches without reason
â€¢ Bruising unexplained
â€¢ Drop in grades or learning problems
â€¢ Afraid to go to school
â€¢ Change in social life
â€¢ Talking down about self or others
Ideas That May Help
â€¢ Let child talk about problems
â€¢ Help solve problems with your child
â€¢ Intervention to solve bullying issues if you can
â€¢ Parents and Teachers together stop bullying and teasing at school
â€¢ Implement programs against bullying and teasing