Can I be Successful with an average IQ?
How being emotionally intelligent is just as important
Okay, so this is cool for me, not an underachiever, but I’m one of those people who always had to work really hard for most A’s in school, never memorized my times tables, couldn’t tell time on a face-clock until I was probably 11 and didn’t have a good grasp on the appropriate points to use to, two and too until I started texting (age 25). I’m not sure if I was just not paying attention as a kid or this stuff was literally too complex and painful to retain. Either way, the first time I had someone tell me that emotional intelligence was just as important as IQ or more, I thought to myself, “yeah, who needs times tables!”.
Do you remember the kid in school, or even Hollywood’s depiction of, ‘that kid’ who easily got strait A’s, but was a social blunder? That’s high IQ and low EI. Those kids are the reason why people say, ‘street smarts’ are more important than, ‘book smarts’.
Emotional intelligence (EI) has gotten more and more attention over the years as people realize that being ‘book smart’ is not the indicator for success in our high tech, fast moving world. While someone with an extremely high IQ may be able to handle cognitive complexities that doesn’t mean that they will necessarily do a stellar job in the work force or in life, for that matter.
People who have high emotional intelligence have a high level of self-awareness and an acute ability to read other peoples feeling too. Furthermore, they have the ability to interact appropriately to those emotions of others. These people tend to be very diplomatic with their social awareness and self-management that also seems to help with overall life satisfaction and rational coping, as they are probably able to put everything in a healthy perspective before reacting.
I imagine these are the people you want as friends, romantic partners and in managerial positions, as natural leaders things like understanding and teamwork come easier for them. Effective communication being the foundation to any and all social interaction comes as expected to a person with a high emotional intelligence.
While some people gain emotional intelligence naturally, through innate gifts of self-understanding and social understanding, others may develop their higher vibration of EI through the vast sub-categories of literature and programs that fall under emotional intelligence: listening skills, communication, reading body language, leadership, coping skills, social awareness and general self-help.
However, just like the elements that contribute to IQ are developed since childhood with parent’s basic teaching and elementary school through adulthood with ongoing education or collage, we can all constantly develop and fine-tune our emotional intelligence for better relationships and happier self’s.