Realign your thinking with your dreams

Do you feel like you're stuck in a rut? Do you want to become more independent? Do you have dreams you have little hope of achieving? Well, I believe that any dream we have is achievable, it's just a matter of working for it, and being grateful for what you have now, no matter how little you might think that is.

Recently, I did my own personal life evaluation. I thought it might help my friends, too, that were having a hard time, so I put it all into a worksheet. I'll share it with you here.

I'd suggest taking a day to yourself, sit in a quiet place with a clean fresh glass of water and a healthy snack, and spend a few hours (or as long as you like) to do the complete evaluation. You can print out this article and answer in a journal or copy/paste it to your word processing software and type in your answers. Break it down into a few weeks, or do it all at once, but be sure to get up and stretch every 30 minutes or so, go outside and have some fresh air, refill your water and snack, then get back to work. Don’t let anyone disturb you on one of your breaks, or it will take some time to get back into the frame of mind to complete it. Or, if you’re like me, you might just give up all together. This isn’t an easy process.

This evaluation is just that - an evaluation to see where you're at, identify your goals (dreams), and orient your mind with those dreams. They'll only happen if you believe in them, and disbelief comes from the mind. Your soul and your heart know better. Trust them.

This evaluation will only work if you're 100% honest with yourself. And why shouldn't you be? You don't have to let anyone else see your answers. You shoud, however, keep your answers so that you can periodically review them and take note of your accomplishments.


Areas of your life to evaluate:

A. My personal life overall (this area has a separate set of questions to help guide you into the next areas, and that really didn’t apply to the other areas)

B. My career

C. My social life

D. Living situation

E. My financial life

F. My Love life

For each category listed above do the following, using the "Personal Life Overall" section I included below as an example:

  1. Rate your happiness on a scale of 1 – 10
  2. Write down 10 things you hate about this part of your life
  3. Write down 10 things you love about it
  4. Answer the questions below

1. Are my physical needs being met? (Is my body well cared for? Is my environment?)

  • If no, Why Not?
  • What can I do about it?

2. Are my psychological needs being met (Am I stressed out, angry or otherwise projecting or absorbing very low vibes)?

  • If no, Why Not?
  • What can I do about it?

3. Are my spiritual needs being met?

  • If no, Why Not?
  • What can I do about it?

4. Are my dependants’, including my pets, needs (bodily, psychologically, spiritually) being met?

  • If no, Why Not?
  • What can I do about it?

5. What do I want?

  • Why (what good is it)?
  • Will it help me move forward or is it going to bog me down? (Do I only want it because the ads made it look so good. Or because it’s just so darned cute.  Or because it gives me some form of -extremely temporary- happiness. Or because everyone else wants it, too.)
  • Can I get/achieve it?
    • How? (When you're ready to go get this goal, you can go into a deeper evaluation of how to achieve it.)
    • What/how much am I willing to invest/sacrifice/commit to (time, money, energy, credit, commitment to long term payments)?
  • How will it make me feel to have it? For how long?

 A.    My Personal Life Overall

Happiness Scale

Extremely unhappy                                                                                                                        Extremely Happy

1              2              3              4              5              6              7              8              9              10

10 things I hate about it:                                                                               10 things I LOVE about it:



Am I an active participant in my life or am I just letting it happen?

Am I an active participant in the lives of others? How am I helping the people I love and do I influence them to their highest good or for my own ends?

Do I own my messes and those of my dependants (actual messes or figurative - like getting into trouble) or do I lay the burden/blame on others?

Do I have all I need? Am I grateful for it?

Do I need all I have? Why do I have it?

Write down your goals. Leave space and for each goal answer: are the practical? Do they enhance my life?

In all honesty with myself, what are my priorities? What SHOULD they be?

What are my bad habits and am I ready to give them up? (It’s a good idea to at least recognize them)