You may be considering marriage counseling, but your still on the fence. Or maybe you've decided to attend, but aren't sure what to expect. The first session of any counseling can be a little frightening, but here are some marriage counseling questions they may ask of you and your spouse.
What issues are you experience? This is the basis for your counseling sessions. These questions could include issues such as: what is going on in the house? Are you fighting all the time, not talking to one another? Is there a problem with intimacy? The first step to receiving help is to identify where the problem is.
Another question that is usually asked is what is the most important issue? Sometimes couples are fighting over whose turn it is to take out the trash, but the real issue is something else entirely.
For instance, a spouse working late or not returning phone calls may be an underlying cause of arguments. In this question each partner expresses their main issue or the problem they feel is the most important one to address. You will be surprised to find out how your partner is really feeling and what they believe the problem is.
After that, the spouse will be asked how they feel about what their partner's most important problem was. So, here is your turn to address the issue your spouse feels is important.
Something simple like, answer the phone when I call, may not seem like a big deal to you, but may be a major concern for your significant other. By communicating with each other, you can find out what each other is really having an issue with.
Another marriage counseling question would be, have there been any life changing events in the recent past? The death of a family member or the birth of a new baby can have significant impact on married couples. Sometimes roles can change suddenly and couples may be unsure how to handle the change.
Especially with the birth of a new baby there can be hidden feelings of resentment towards each other. Each person is struggling to identify their new role as mother and father.
There are other example marriage counseling questions, but all the questions are to open up communication between the couple and the counselor.
By looking at things in a neutral environment we are more inclined to discuss our problems openly. You may be surprised how your spouse answers these questions and therefore gain valuable insight to the problems you are facing.