The thing is, reading body language is not the most exact science. What you think someone is saying with their crossed arms and hunched shoulders – anger or distrust – might be totally wrong – the woman is sitting under an AC vent and is just cold. You have to take what you're reading with a grain of salt and wait for verbal clues to help confirm your suspicions.
Here are a few signs to look for on your next date:
Relaxed posture –
Does she look relaxed while standing or sitting next to you? That means she's calm and open to you. If she's fidgeting, especially on a first date, she may just be nervous. If she feels as closed off as a military base during the Cold War, watch out!
Eye Contact –
Is she looking you in the eye? Then she's interested in what you're saying. If she's looking elsewhere when you're talking she's either not interested in you or distracted.
Leaning forward -
Any time a woman moves closer to you, it means that she feels comfortable being with you – the walls are coming down! If she's making it a point to keep her distance or move away from you, she's got issues with you or personal space.
Head Nodding –
If she's nodding periodically as you speak, that's a good sign that she's on the same wavelength. If she looks like one of those bobble head toys, you've lost her – you'll want to take a step back and reevaluate your approach
Yes, some men and women get "touchy" when you're on a first date. A soft caress of your arm or hand means that they're making contact. A touch of your thigh means something totally different.
Watch the Hands –
Hands can be a window to your date's soul too. Palms up means that they are friendly towards you, where arms crossed could mean that she's closed off towards you. Also, hands held up behind the head could mean that he or she is trying to gain dominance over you.
Mirroring is when the person you're talking to is so into you, they unconsciously do whatever you do. You shift a bit to the right and they shift to the right, you lean forward and they lean forward. This means that they are really into you and that this relationship has so good potential.
Speed of Conversation –
If your conversation is going at a decent speed and you banter back and forth, that's a good sign. But if your date has his or her mouth open a lot or seems to be trying to break into the conversation often, you might be talking too much or talking about stuff she's not interested in.