Advice on internet dating

1. Don't believe everything you see
The photo that you see on the profile might not be an accurate representation of the person.  I say this because not everyone has just created their profile; some people have been members for months, even years, so the age of the photo they have uploaded varies.  It's important that you take this into consideration when viewing others' profiles, because some people like to post photos of themselves that are four years or more old.

I personally think that its a bad habit, but sometimes it can't be avoided.  This is one reason why it's very important to read the content that is on the profile's page instead of only viewing the photos in the gallery.

Another thing to note when looking at profile photos on dating websites, or anywhere else for that matter , is that people generally want to look their best in the photos that they upload.  Think about are sharing a part of yourself with the world.  Often times you will see people dressed up nice with make-up on, and in locations that they may not normally be.  This is all to create a certain kind of image they want you to believe or see them in.  The only real way to know them is to talk with them.

2. Girls usually won't send the first message
Lets face it guys, usually the girl will wait to hear from us first before she decides to send any kind of message.  Don't get offended if you don't hear back from her after you send it.  She will respond to you only if interested, and if she's really nice, she may tell you that she's not interested.

More often than not, girls receive a lot of messages form guys within these dating sites which can lead to a pretty packed inbox...or even full sometimes, so if you don't get a prompt response, this may be the reason why.  Not everyone logs into their account everyday and answers all of their messages, they might only check 1-3 times a week, and if she didn't make it to yours, you will have to wait even longer.

Another reason girls might not want to send you a message first is because they want to know what "type" of guy you are first.  Girls typically get a lot of rude, sexual, and all kinds of inappropriate messages when participating in online dating websites.  Some of these sites can bring out the worst kind of people at times.  So keep this in mind before you decide on sending another message like "hey cutie...can I have your number?".  Your first message is a very important, a crucial part of meeting someone online, and may create an unchanging lasting impression.

You want your first message to have a positive impact, so you should make your intentions clear, be honest, and state why you are interested in them, and that you are interested in knowing more about them.

3. Do not constantly visit their profile
When browsing through profiles on whatever dating site you are using, chances are you will come across a few profiles that grab your attention.  Make an effort to read the entire profile page before you send any message.  A lot of the websites allow the users to see the users who have viewed their page, and it might be kind of embarrassing or strange if you were caught visiting a profile 8 times a day, everyday, on the hour.

Some people might get nervous if they see this, or wonder why the visitor keeps returning without sending any messages.  She may think "Well why doesn't he just send a message already!?"

Usually people tend to visit the profiles of others who have visited them, so if you wait for a little while, she may visit your page.  After that, try sending a message.

4. Make your profile stand out
Your profile page can be one of your most vital assets in your online dating experience.  The content that you write here will be the first impression you give others about your personality.  When creating your online dating profile, you should be sure to upload some good photos of yourself.  I recommend to put at least one good smiling headshot of yourself, and at least one good body shot, at least from the waist up.  People are very visual, and we like to know who we are talking to.  Providing a nice clear photo of yourself helps break the barrier a bit.

A lot of the sites allows you to crop out your photo after you upload it, so be sure to make the thumbnail of the photos you select clear for others to see.

Some guys tend to upload images of themselves shirtless.  This is something that I would not recommend, even if you are in shape.  One reason would be that it's a little inappropriate, and the another reason is that it will most likely draw away your audinece.  May girls find this kind of photo to be very annoying.

Another tip to note when selecting a profile photo, is to avoid group photos, and photos of yourself with the opposite sex.  The person viewing your profile will not be sure if you are single, or if you still have feelings for an old girlfriend.  They will not be able to tell the relationship by looking at the photo.

5.  Have a good screen name
The screen name that you have attached to your profile will be seen and read all the time, so be careful when deciding on it.  An inappropriate user name can definitely make people want to stay far away from you.  Think about it, would you want to talk to someone whose screen name is something like "iLikeGurlz123"?  I sure wouldn't.

You don't have to put your actual name into your username, but I would recommend to use words that describe your personality or interest.  This is good because it gives others another opportunity to see what kind of person you are, and know a little into your personality.


I hope you can use some of these tips to help you find that special someone.
There a lot of dating sites out there to choose from, so take your pick and apply some of this information to the next profile that you make online.

To get an idea of some of the kinds free online dating websites there are, check out another article I've written here called: Top Three Free Dating Sites for Singles