I was talking with a friend about Info Barrel trying to figure out what to write. I'm a GEEK so writing about computers seemed like a natural fit, but I do that all day so I wasn't sure if I wanted to write about it all night. My friend suggested that I share my recipe for happiness. It is true, I only have great days. I am always happy. It actually occurred to me one day when I was out with friends that I was the only one in the group that wasn't on some type of anti-anxiety (depression) medication.
So here is my recipe:
> The Golden Rule
If I had to pick one rule, this would be my favorite. Everyone knows that you will get a bounty of tomatoes from a single seed. So plant happiness everywhere you go and it will come back to you ten fold. Smile, hold a door, and be polite for starters. Happiness is not about how others treat you; it is about how you treat others.
> Don't Forget To be Nice to Yourself
I had trouble with this rule for years. I was always helping others but something was always missing. I found out it was me. I had to decide that I was important and that was when I became my own best friend. Now I only say positive things to myself and I never let Me down.
> Pocket Full of Miracles
Change your vocabulary and it will change your life. Get some index cards and write down as many superlatives as you can think of. Super, Fantastic, Great, Excellent... you get the idea. Now put those cards in your pocket and make sure that all your comments on how you are doing or what you are saying to others contains a word from your pocket full of miracles. Try it for a week and see.
> Fake it Til You Make it
Being unhappy is the same as being unhealthy. You need to go to the emotional gym everyday. Pretend to be happy until it becomes a habit. Your self image will change over time and you will start to see yourself as a happy person.
Control IS the secret to happiness. Don't react to life, Take control of it. Take control of you! Pretty sure it was Shakespeare that wrote, "There is nothing either good or bad, but thinking makes it so." You decide, whatever it is, how you will perceive it. There are lessons and opportunities in all things. Here are some examples of how you can look at something normally perceived as negative in a positive way.
Your marriage or relationship ends: Lesson - take a look at what you could change about yourself so you can bring more value into your next relationship.
A friend or loved one dies: Lesson - look at what made that person special and honor them by applying it to how you live your life.
> Think the Best of People
People know how you feel even if you don't say it. Be sincere and really give everyone the opportunity to earn your trust and friendship. Don't assume anything.
> Surround Yourself With Happy People
Someone once told me that if you want to be wealthy you should hang out at a country club (even if you have to wait on tables to get in) and surround yourself with wealthy people. My point is that happiness is no different. You need to surround yourself with positive, happy people. There are two types of people; those that are always climbing the ladder of life and encouraging you to do the same AND those that are afraid to climb and holding you by your ankles. Kick them off and out of your life! Ok, maybe that is a bit drastic, just don't spend a lot of time with them and don't use them as your guiding light.
I have more but that's enough for now. I really hope that this helps someone. It really does work for me!