Struggling with a family member or spouse who has a drug addiction is one of the most difficult family situations imaginable. Between the lies, stealing, and constant attention that they require, it is no wonder that you would want to get your family member into drug detox as soon as it is possible. If you've tried to talk with your loved one about their drug problem in the past, you know just how difficult it can be to try to get them to understand your side of the issue and to seek help. Only you can decide for yourself whether or not you should keep trying.
One of the first things you should do when you start thinking about getting a loved one into drug detox is to consider getting some support and help yourself. Dealing with a drug addict in the house is taxing both emotionally and mentally. The amount of stress that you are under day to day is considerable. There are several different ways in which you can find help for yourself in dealing with the stress of an addict. The first is to consider whether or not a program such as ALANON is appropriate for you. ALANON is a twelve step program very similar to Alcoholics Anonymous and Narcotics Anonymous that is designed to help those who care for addicts. Sometimes when we are caring for a loved one who really needs drug detox, we can become compulsive in our caring to the point that we neglect ourselves and our well being. ALANON can help with this. The groups that ALANON provides are all free to attend and are run by people who have been in your shoes before. If you are looking for professional support, consider finding an individual counselor who can help you cope with your stress on a day to day level as well as provide any other community referrals that you may need in helping your family member get into drug detox.
Aside from speeding up the process of your loved on hitting bottom, there is unfortunately very little that you can actually do to get them into a drug detox center. Short of a court ordered drug detox after receiving a DUI, there are no methods that you can use to force a person into rehab. In addition, forced drug detox is very rarely if ever successful and the person will tend to relapse back into addiction at the first possible moment. The best recourse you have available is to plan an intervention with your loved one. Be aware, though, that interventions can back fire and cause the person to create more distance. If you set ultimatums at an intervention, be sure ahead of time that you are prepared to carry them out. For example, if you tell your spouse that if he continues to use cocaine that he can no longer live in the house around the children, change the locks if he refuses treatment. If you aren't prepared to carry out the threat, don't use it.
The second part of being prepared for an intervention is to make sure you have set up a drug detox center for your loved one to go to before the intervention. This works best if someone does agree to get treatment. If its already set up, there can be no excuse to put off until "later" the process of going through drug detox and rehab. If you have insurance, you may wish to call ahead and find an appropriate facility where you can get pre-authorization. If you aren't using insurance, you can either choose to pay out of pocket for the drug detox of your choice or go through a community non-profit center. Be aware that with non-profit organizations there may be a waiting list in order to receive drug detox services.
The most important thing to remember when dealing with a loved one with a drug problem is to take care of yourself. While this probably isn't the first thought on your mind, you will have a harder time reacting positively and providing support if your loved one does decide to go through drug detox. Detox is only the first step down a long road of addiction recovery. You will be able to provide better support if you aren't constantly feeling stressed out and exhausted. Consider getting yourself some help first and then find a drug detox center for your family member.