When men are having issues with dating, one of the biggest fears they can have is rejection. Rejection can feel like a blow to your self-esteem, discouraging, and in some cases even downright painful. Some men will avoid asking a girl out because they have experienced the feeling of being rejected in the past and they just do not want to experience it again. If that is the case then you already know what those feelings are doing to your dating life. There are a few things that you can do to get over those feelings and you should try them if you ever want to get another date.
Rejection Will Stop You From Getting Dates
Fear of rejection is probably a leading reason why you are not getting dates. You are either not asking anyone out or you are asking girls out, but you are projecting fear and you look uncertain. The knowledge that you have been told no over and over is affecting you psychologically and that needs to stop. Women love a man who is confident so the shy fearful guy will not even get a pity second look. One thing to remember when asking for a date is that fearful does not look confident, and that means that getting past that stage is important for getting the dates.
It Is Not Personal
You have to keep in mind that when a girl says “no”, it is not something that you need to take like a personal attack on you. Even if she does not see you as someone she would like to date and she told you so it is still not a statement that you should keep in your mind. Some men become obsessed with a rejection that they will keep playing it over and over in their minds. The best advice you could get at that point is to see that no as a way to get to a yes from someone else a bit faster.
Let’s say that you approach a girl and you are confident when you do and she turns you down, so what? That is the best question you can ask yourself after a rejection. What is the big deal? You are not going to be every girl’s type, just like every girl is not your type. If you were ok with dating just anyone then that would make you desperate and that is the same case with her. She can say yes, or she can say no, but in the end when she says no it should not feel like the end of the world.
You Have To Ask
As a guy that wants to go out on dates you need to ask for them. There is a chance that a girl will ask you out, but the reality is that you will be doing most of the asking. You should not rely on other people to help you because it goes back to the lack of confidence point. If you are not asking for a date then you are not going on a date, so do not over think it. If she says no, then that is too bad, but you will never know if you would get a yes unless you asked.