Having A Loved One Who Is Addicted To Drugs Is A Painful Experience
If you are looking for some advice on how to cope with a loved one on drugs, you've come to the right place. Drug addiction has no prejudice; it affects people from all walks of life and all social statuses. Many people expect drug addicts to be homeless, poor or socially inept. To the contrary, it is almost impossible to recognize a drug addict just by looking at someone. Yes, it is true that years of repetitive drug use can have a negative impact on your appearance, however, you cannot assume that someone does not have a drug problem based on their appearance. It is very, very difficult to cope with having a loved one who is addicted to drugs. It is important to understand how drug addiction works in order to preserve your sanity and keep you safe.Â
For example, it can be impossible to reason with someone who is high on drugs. Even subjects that seem relatively easy or simple can be easily clouded by drug use. Continuing to waste your energy trying to reason with your loved one while they are in this state is a waste of your energy, exhausting and can be beyond frustrating. When your loved one is under the influence of drugs, they cannot see things the way you can. They may have an impaired ability to think rationally, which is often reflected in their behavior. If you have ever tried to reason with someone who is drunk, you can see this concept in action. Most people who are drunk (or high), do not realize it at the time. They will look at you completely seriously and continue to argue their point an attempt to rationalize their point of view to you. They cannot understand why you do not agree with them, or why they don't make any sense. The same holds true for drug addicts, much to the pain and disappointment of their family members. It can be an extremely frustrating process to have to deal with.
One of the worst parts about having a drug addicted loved one is how they treat their family. Drug addicts can easily become angry or violent with little or no warning. It is an extremely degrading feeling to continue to tolerate the abusive behavior that frequently accompanies drug addiction while trying to help someone. Outsiders don't really understand, and it can feel like you are completely alone in your efforts to save the one that you love. Every day can feel like a roller coaster, with a wide range of emotions and actions being displayed at any given moment. Someone who is feeling good and seems happy can turn angry, abusive and violent in the blink of an eye. Often, it doesn't take much to get them this way. Loving a drug addict can be an extremely painful experience. On one hand, you pity them and want to help them. You realize that their life is at stake and that their drug addiction is beginning to take its toll on their body. On the other hand, you're probably tired of the way that they are acting and sick of being abused and mistreated on a regular basis. It is not uncommon to enable a drug addict's behavior without even realizing it. As family members, we tend to be desperate to help our loved one at any cost. It is important to always keep in mind that they are the ones with the drug problem, not you. Instead of questioning why they can't understand you or why they are acting the way they are, accept the fact that they are under the influence and are not rational. Do not question yourself; this is a frequent occurrence among family members of drug addicts. This is an unhealthy thought process that should be stopped before it affects you. You may blame yourself and wonder why you are unable to help them. This self-doubt can quickly eat away at your self-esteem and make you upset.
It is a good idea to seek some type of therapy or support network to help you deal with your loved one's behavior. Consider joining a support group for family members of drug addicts. This will allow you to vent, share your stories and build an alliance with each other. This support can help keep you strong during some of your most challenging times. You may reach a point when getting help for the drug addict is no longer an option. There should never be a point when you do not continue to protect and help yourself. Watching your loved one struggle with a drug addiction is a painful process, and you cannot let the drug addiction bring you down with it. It is normal to have feelings of anger, hurt and resentment. Attempting to communicate with your loved one while they are high is a complete waste of your time, especially when the addict cannot calm down. Instead, you can either attempt to speak with them when they are sober, or you can focus on maintaining your own emotional health.
Depending on the type of drugs that are involved in the addiction, dealing with a drug addicted loved one can be extremely dangerous. Drugs can alter the brain and body functions as well as seriously impair their judgment. When their judgment is impaired, you are no longer safe. It is all too easy for a drug addict to hurt their family member for no reason at all. If your loved one begins to get violent with you, you should immediately contact law enforcement and find resources to help you. It may be in the best interest of your own health and safety to keep your loved one away from you. Do not allow your love and desire to help your loved one to put your own safety in jeopardy. Sometimes, the best solution is to love your loved one, but from a safe distance, both figuratively and literally.