There are a variety of ways on how to deal with difficult people. You may have come in contact with many difficult people in your life. Unfortunately, the difficult people do not always go away on their own, nor do they stay and change their difficult ways. Just because someone is contrary does not necessarily mean that you want them out of your life entirely. The difficult person may be someone you need or want in your life, perhaps it is a person that you love or a family member you have had in your life for many years, but you simply cannot stand the way that they act, and getting them out of your life entirely just is not an option. If you continue to read on you will find a few suggestions on how to deal with difficult people without starting a riot or another uncomfortable confrontation.

Things You Will Need

Ability to dismiss words.

Step 1

First and foremost, do not argue with difficult people. If you argue you are just being difficult yourself. Difficult people are sometimes difficult simply because they enjoy being difficult, and arguing might only encourage them to find more words to argue with. I find that when someone is trying to argue with me, I either agree with them or ask them to agree to disagree. At times the difficult person will not agree to disagree, because they want to be right. This is when I simply allow them to think that they are right. After all they can think whatever, they want, without effecting the truth in the matter.

Step 2

When difficult people are going off the deep end about a subject that you do not think is worthy of having a meltdown over, say as little as possible. If you say to much and express your own opinions, you may come off as having a lack of compassion. If you say too much you may inadvertently give the indication that you care to discuss the matter further. It is best to say as little as possible and to appear that you are indeed listening to their rant without conflict.

Step 3

I find that being agreeable is the best way to handle most all difficult people that I have to deal with. Later after they have calmed, perhaps months later, I tell them what I was really thinking. Usually this person is surprised and asked me why I didn't argue. I explain that I didn't think they needed a negative input during their time of crisis, so I simply told them what they wanted to hear to avoid conflict on the subject. When you tell the difficult person the truth later it gives them a moment to consider and reflect on the matter of how people react to them. Perhaps this will help or encourage them be less difficult in the future.


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