Tips For Dealing With The Negative People In Your Life
Learning how to deal with negative people is important in todays world because there are so many of them. We all have negative people in our lives. Whether it's a parent, sibling, friend, co-worker or in-law, negative people are everywhere. It can be difficult to live in close quarters with or even be around people who seem to be professionals at seeing the negative side of everything. I like to think of myself as a pretty positive guy. I generally have a great attitude towards life and the people around me but I find that I get dragged down by people who are constantly negative.
I have a friend like that. He's not a bad guy, he just likes to talk about the negative side of life. When the weather is going to turn bad again, why global warming is going to kill us all, why any car other than the one he is currently driving is a complete piece of crap. It's exhausting to be around for any length of time. I come from a family full of negative people myself and choose to be a positive person. I have learned how to address this issue in my life and want to offer you some tips.
1. Just tell them straight
In this day in age we tend to be more comfortable tweeting, texting or emailing people about things that we don't want to discuss in person so this one can be difficult. Give it try though, I've told people in my life straight up: "dude, you are being really negative about everything right now and it's irritating, can we talk about something good?" You'll be surprised, a lot of people don't even know how negative they are because nobody wants to be the one to tell them.
2. Change the subject
This is a short-term fix as negative people tend to want to revert back to negative conversation, but try it anyways. Just a simple, "so the weather is sure getting better" or maybe "Hey I got a raise last week and I'm really excited about it" can turn a conversation around. Take charge of the conversation and direct it where you want it to go..
3. Throw a cold bucket of water in their face
Make sure to explain to your friend/mother in law/whoever that you are throwing water in their face because they are too negative and they can avoid a repeat by choosing to smarten up. I will caution you that most people don't like having water thrown in their face and may choose to get more upset rather than correcting course. If this happens, move to tip #4.
4. Just stop spending time with them
This is really hard to do. Sometimes the negative people in our lives are the ones we really care about. Experience has taught me however, that negative people tend to drag those around them down too and it rarely goes the other way around. I'm not sure why. The best thing you can do if you feel yourself being affected by others' negativity is to try to address it, and if that doesn't work, remove yourself from the situation.
Learning how to deal with negative people in a straight forward manner is tough. But the last thing you want is for a negative person to drag you down into their negativity with them. Remember, misery loves company. Choose not to be their company any longer.