How To Get Your Girlfriend Back
So you've broken up with your girl and now you're wondering how to get your girlfriend back. Maybe you had a fight or an all out bad breakup. Either way, you've probably had enough time to sit down and reflect on what happened and now you want to get your girl back. Maybe you realize that you were wrong and are looking for a way to tell her that you're sorry. Maybe you forgot what all the fighting was for and just want to get back with your mate. Doesn't that stink? When you've been fighting for so long that you forgot what the fight was even about in the first place. That's a good indicator that the fight was not a core value in your relationship and might not be worth breaking up over. There are plenty of places online where you get get the cure for breakups or get your girlfriend back guarantee. But the truth is, there is no guarantee to get your girl back. It's like the cure for a broken heart or the guaranteed way to make women go crazy for you. I'm sorry to say, but it's a bunch of crap, really. The only guarantees in life are death and taxes. And neither one is too pleasant.
So How Do I Get My Girl Back?
If you have allowed enough time to pass (and that's more than an hour, or a weekend), you might want to start out slow and see where your girlfriend is at, mentally. She's a psychopath you say? Well, you might not want her back then, do you? Just kidding. What I mean by mentally, is making gentle contact with her and see how she reacts. This can be a great way to gauge whether she is ready to talk to you again or if she still needs a bit more time. Some people need more time than others; it has no bearing on the value of the relationship or friendship. As cheesy as it sounds, you might want to start out by sending a simple text message. While I wouldn't normally be an advocate of sending a text message to get back with your girl, if the fight or breakup was bad enough, a text might be a passive way to try to make contact with her without risking your neck. It can also help prevent a nasty slip of the tongue in the event that she is still bitter or angry. There's really not much to it, and there is no need to find a beautiful saying or quote. Just start out by saying "Hi."
Hi?!?? Do Hallmark Cards Ever Just Say "Hi"?
Sometimes, that's all it takes to start out with. If your girl friend responds in a positive way, or doesn't respond in a hostile manner, your next text should say something like, "I've been thinking about you. I miss you." More often than not, that might be all it takes to win her back. Most people are uncomfortable with lack of communication, and prefer to be back in good graces and in communication. If this worked- great. If not, you'll have to try something different.
Wait a couple of days, even a week if you can stand it, after you've sent your last text. It is not a good idea to send a ton of texts one right after the other and I'll tell you why:
Your girlfriend will never miss you if you're not gone long enough to be missed.
This is a very simple concept that many guys (and girls) just don't get. I mean, seriously? How can you expect her to miss you and want you back if you're bombarding her with text messages and phone calls all the time? Stop "bumping into her" in odd places just to get a glimpse of her. Back it off a bit, huh?
After you've given it some time, try sending her an email. Let her know in the email how much you've been thinking about her, and that you're sorry that things turned out the way they did. If you were a jerk, and you know it, apologize for it. There's nothing wrong with saying you're sorry to your girl if you did something wrong. Actually, it's expected. She deserves an apology. Write anything you want to in this email, but whatever you do, don't tell her that you want to get back together with her. That's way too much pressure and will surely backfire. Let her know that the fight was lame, and that you feel badly. Mention that you miss something about her (but don't go too deep) and send the email. Avoid adding too much mushy stuff, it can be perceived as threatening. You might be surprised at the answer or response that you may receive.
Take some time out for yourself. You cannot spend every waking minute of the day thinking about how to get your ex-girlfriend back in your arms again. It sounds a bit cheesy, but try to pick up a new hobby to help take your mind off of your relationship. You might even find that over time, you've changed your mind and wish to abandon the crusade in getting your girl back. It may not be worth your time or dedication if your feelings are no longer reciprocated.