If you have ever had to work for a difficult boss or manager, you know the feelings of stress and anxiety that accompany you even as you enter the work place.  A verbally abusive boss that is disrespectful, demeaning, has unrealistic expectations or you name it can destroy your self esteem and drain you mentally. You want to do the best job you can but this type of environment will only cause your work performance to suffer.  Here’s what you need to know and do:


1.)    Deliver your absolute best performance for the company and your boss, regardless of how you are treated.  Show up early, work through breaks, under promise and over deliver.  Work with diligence not just for the company but for yourself and your family.  Do not give your manager or boss a reason to be disappointed with you or your work.


2.)    When talking with or receiving direction from your manager, take a notepad and pencil, write down the tasks you are given to do and how you should perform them.  If you have a micro manager boss or supervisor, this will be incredibly important as they can often get quite upset if a task is not performed exactly as they specified.  Tasks can usually be completed in different ways but to the micro manager boss, there only one way to do a task, the way he or she says.  Anything less may be observed as not following directions and performing the task incorrectly.  Also when given feedback take note of and receive it and work hard to improve.


3.)    Ask plenty of questions.  If there is anything you are not sure of, err on the side of asking your supervisor or boss.  There is sometimes a fine line of asking too many questions but if it is something you don’t know you need to ask sooner rather than later.  It is important to write down important pieces of information you are given, and do your best not to repeat questions as this could really bring out anger in a manager and seemingly unleash a bad attitude directed at you.  If this happens don’t arouse in anger yourself just receive the rebuke and vow to do better.  A difficult boss is often times unforgiving and anything less than perfection will get you the wrath.


4.)    Have confidence in your work and yourself.  Don’t allow any comments that put down your work to affect how you perform.  Difficult managers will sometimes speak too quickly and harshly towards you only to have to back track later.  You like everyone else will make mistakes, but don’t let misused, exaggerated and just plain erroneous statements from ignorant lips lower your self esteem.


5.)    Don’t take it personally.  Sometimes your manager will rant, rave and fuss at you even if you have done your job as directed.  Some people are more high strung than others and are less tactful in how they interact with others.  Behavior like this from your manager is childish and uncalled for, and is not indicative of you.  In situations like this you must just let it go.  Like the old adage says, forgive and forget.


6.)    If you are treated in way in which you receive as verbal abuse, you should confront the manager or boss.  In other words if you are treated in a demeaning manner that goes beyond putting down your work (which is never appropriate to begin with) to putting you down as a person you need to speak.  Be nice but don’t stoop down to this level but express what’s on your mind.  If the supervisor or boss can’t receive this or gets upset, that is his or her problem, not yours. 



These steps are geared to show you how to not only do your job but do it well while dealing with a difficult boss.  Sometimes issues like these can be resolved with your manager or boss and sometimes not.  The ultimate thing you should put your effort towards is to do your part to make it work.  If your supervisor is unwilling that’s on him or her.  Even if the manager or boss makes decisions unreasonably that adversely affects your job and career, above all else you have to place your personal and mental well being first.