One of the ways to living well is to open your eyes to the awareness of the gifts you have already been given.
Simply put, it is living in the now with a grateful heart.
Do you know that one of the most effective cure for a bout of depression is to volunteer and serve others?
It makes you aware of the needs of others, and realize that for some, their dire need isn’t even something you think about because of your privileged position.
Everyone presents the best fruits of their seasons to the public, which always make it seem as though they have it just a little better. Here is Wikipedia’s definition of survivor bias:
Survivorship bias, or survival bias, is the logical error of concentrating on the people or things that "survived" some process and inadvertently overlooking those that did not because of their lack of visibility. This can lead to false conclusions in several different ways.
Most people are more willing to share their struggles after they have overcome it, so it always looks easier from the outside in.
I’m not sure about you, but sometimes I think: “Yes, they are struggling with that. But they have it in them to overcome it. I’m not so sure about myself.”
The confidence and perseverance of others does not always translate into similar attitudes in ourselves. On the other hand, it might intimidate us into thinking, “Now, I’ll need this and this quality he had in order to accomplish that”.
But everyone is born with different gifts, mindsets, and in different circumstances - that, I think, is what makes us unique. So why are the things we ultimately want be the same?
Is it because we have lumped all of them together, for that proverbial day when we “make it”? Does that make sense? Are we saving our energies, our time, our relationships, our health for that day when we could have it all - success, discipline, great relationships, and tip-top fitness?
Reflect on that for a bit and consider if that is a reasonable thing to expect.
Have many people done it? Is the most successful businessman we know in great shape, with loving families? We might be able to come up with some examples. How about people who are really successful in one aspect, but not-so-great at others? Are there more examples in this category?
How About Separating Out The Things We Want In Phases?
Here is a proposition: Perhaps we have been given all the gifts we need in this life - all the rewards: the time, the money, the health, and the relationships.
We just need to recognize which season they dominate, leverage on them, and enjoy.
If we can ride the waves, go with the flow of our seasons, and take advantage of each of their strengths, it is easier to live with joy every single day in our lives, even in the down times.
Because while every season has its difficulties; it has its rewards as well. We await the coming of something new; but while we are waiting, we can truly enjoy where we are at now.