From childhood I imagined how my adult life would be. I would find my Prince Charming. He would sweep me off my feet with a proposal that would make daytime soaps look bland. We would get married and of course have lots of babies. Luckier than some, I did find Prince Charming and we did get married. However, no babies were in sight. After several fertility specialists, multiple (and often painful) treatments and years of disappointment we finally gave up. There appeared to be no medical reason that we were not conceiving. Defeated as we felt, I simply could not go on. It was then we finally received 2 lines....we were pregnant!
Things You Will Need
Items needed will depend on the method or methods that you choose to utilize.
Step 1First of all, if you're overweight you need to get that under control. Losing just a little weight can make an extreme difference. Being overweight is a leading cause for women to not ovulate. And as you know, if you aren't ovulating...you aren't getting pregnant! Some people need help with weight loss. If you don't have the willpower to do it on your own, don't be embarrassed to seek medical help. I was one of those people too. This alone could make all the difference in your ability to conceive. Statistics show that the majority of those who have unexplained fertility or issues with ovulation are overweight be more than 25 pounds.
Step 2Know your body! Are you aware when you are ovulating? The old saying "Knowledge is Power" truly applies here. If you aren't having unprotected sex during your most fertile time the chances of you becoming pregnant are low. Do you know when you ovulate? If you answered no, you're not alone. A lot of women are uncertain as to when they ovulate or of the process of ovulation. It's not your fault. Chances are, you've been misinformed. So many women believe that on the 14th day of their cycle, they ovulate. While this may be true for some women it certainly is not true for all of us. The 14 day ovulation rule only applies if you have the text book perfect 28 day cycles. And even with a cycle length of 28 days, you have no guarantees that come day 14 you will ovulate. So just when does ovulation occur? Well, first things first. Get a calendar and determine how many days you have in your cycle. The first day that you bleed is day one. Mark your calendar accordingly. You will keep note of your cycle days all through until the first day of your next cycle. At that point you start over and record the next cycle in the same manner. It is important to have a history of several consistent months to determine the average length of your cycle. If you later seek the help of a fertility specialist this information will prove useful.
Step 3As you mark the days on your calendar, note and describe your cervical mucous. You'll check your cervical mucous every day at least once by inserting your finger into your vagina and literally examining the mucous. Some women become a bit uncomfortable at this point. Don't worry. Once you become accustomed to this you'll no longer feel so uncomfortable. This is probably what you will notice: Once the flow of menstruation ceases you are likely to notice no CM (cervical mucous) for a few days. As the days pass, mucous increases. You're likely to see the CM go from a wetter substance and then it may appear milky. The milky CM indicates that fertility is approaching. Although this is not your most fertile stage, it is possible to get pregnant now. Finally, your cervical mucous will reach an egg white consistency. When your cervical mucous is comparable to egg white and can be stretched between two fingers before breaking, you have reach your most fertile stage. It is a safe and reliable bet that you will ovulate very soon. Having unprotected sex as soon as you notice this change will optimize your chances of conceiving. This is generally towards the middle of your cycle. As your cycle draws to an end, your CM will return to what it was prior to ovulation; little to no CM will be found.
Step 4It is also important for the sperm trying to make their journey to the egg to survive the trip. If the cervical mucous is of poor quality - usually meaning too thick or not plentiful enough - the sperm will be killed quite quickly. Normally, the secretions in the vagina are extremely acidic. However; if all systems are go, the environment becomes more suitable for sperm to thrive and travel on to their intended destination as ovulation approaches. There are issues - usually hormonal - that sometimes do not allow for the cervical mucous to become friendly enough for the sperm to survive. If this happens, conception is at the very best unlikely. Ideally, CM will be as previously described, thin, slippery, comparable to egg-white and stretchy. Often times, the problem is dehydration. Drink plenty of water. Skip on caffeinated beverages that can actually cause dehydration. Drinking at least 8, 8 ounce glasses of water a day is sufficient for someone within their ideal weight range. For every 25 pounds of extra weight, add another 8 ounces. Regular Robitussin Cough Syrup is another way to thin cervical mucous. Take (2) tablespoons twice a day. The results may not be instant so you'll want to allow a full cycle before expecting to see a real difference. Also, continue drinking an adequate amount of water. Many women with this issue have found using a proper type of lubricant resolves the problem. Pre-Seed is an excellent choice as it is not hostile to sperm and re-creates a natural environment that enables sperm to have excellent mobility.
It is not unusual for couples with no fertility issues to have unprotected sex for up to one year without conceiving. It is recommended that after one year the advice of a medical professional should be sought. In couples ages 35 or older, it is advised that they discuss the matter with a medical professional or a fertility specialist after 6 months of unsuccessfully trying to conceive.
Tips & Warnings
Before having any unnecessary testing or procedures it is advised that a man have his sperm count tested. The procedure is painless and simple. However, many routine tests determining a female's fertility can be quite uncomfortable, such as having an HsG. Cervical mucous should only be checked before sex. If you are having difficulty determining the mucous and it's consistency, check after you have had a BM. When trying to conceive, never use a lubricant that does not specifically create a healthy environment for sperm to travel. You're most likely to find these types online.