Should I Leave Him/Her Or Should I Stay?
When faced with the possibility of a breakup, it can be difficult to decide whether or not it's time to end the relationship or continue to try and make improvements. Most people have a tendency to try and make the relationship more viable at any cost, as opposed to terminating it all together. This can be from familiarity or due to the comfort involved in staying with one person for a long time. Trying to make your relationship work can be a good thing, however; if you are in a relationship that is unhealthy or just not viable, it may be time to end the relationship sooner, rather than later. Recognizing the truth about your relationship can be extremely difficult, and it can be a painful emotional process. Like many things, you may need some additional time to process and heal emotionally.
Some people have gone to tremendous lengths to try and salvage Something that's no longer worth salvaging. Even going through years of therapy and attempting behavioral modification may not necessarily work to fix something that is not meant to be fixed. Some people have attempted to employ pharmaceutical therapy in an attempt to fix what may be broken. More often than not, the damage has already been done. It is imperative that at least one half of the couple is able to recognize this. Sometimes, it may take years of counseling before this notion can be accepted. Love may be blind, yes, but love should never be painful.
So how do I know when it's time to end my relationship?
This is a complicated question and a personal decision. However, there are some signs in your relationship that should indicate to you that the relationship needs to be terminated. It almost goes without saying that abusive relationships should be ended promptly in order to avoid emotional or physical injury to both parties. Unfortunately, recognizing the signs of an abusive relationship is often easier said than done. This is especially true for someone who wants the relationship to work so badly that they will tolerate any type of treatment in an attempt to solidify the relationship.To further complicate matters, it is not uncommon to be in denial about being in an abusive relationship.
It is not a big deal to get into an argument with your significant other; it happens to all of us, no matter how great our relationship may be. Disagreements happen; it's a part of life. As civilized members of society, we learn early on that there are some things we cannot do when we fight. Heating or physical violence is never acceptable under any circumstances, no matter how emotional or charged the disagreement becomes. Part of civilization is being able to police ourselves and control our own behavior voluntarily. If you are in a relationship that includes hitting or violence as part of communication, the relationship needs to end immediately. No one deserves to be hit, threatened or physically abused during any disagreement.
Fidelity is another important part of maintaining a healthy relationship. If your boyfriend, girlfriend or significant other goes astray at some point in your relationship, only you can decide if you will be able to trust them again and rebuild. However, it goes without saying that if cheating becomes a habit, the relationship is doomed. Building trust takes time, and constant unfaithfulness will eventually destroy the relationship from the bottom up. Even worse, a lack of fidelity can put people at risk for sexually transmitted diseases. For those who made the discovery that their significant other was unfaithful as a result of the diagnosis of a sexually transmitted disease, they probably realize that the relationship should have been ended much earlier. Unfortunately, many STDs are not curable. If your mate is is putting you at risk of STD transmission on a regular basis due to their cheating and lack of self-control, is a smart idea to leave the relationship before you end up with more than just a broken heart.
Ending a relationship takes plenty of fortitude. It's so easy to say that you're happy in a relationship, but it takes guts to recognize that you are no longer satisfied with what you're getting in return and want to leave. If you are not getting anything back from the relationship, why bother staying in it? Everyone has the right to be loved and to feel loved. Many people will say that they love someone, but they do not act like they love that someone. It is important to remember that love is an action, not a feeling. It is unhealthy to be mistreated while believing that you are truly loved by the same person who is mistreating you. If you are not getting anything positive from your relationship, it's time to end it and move on. True love may not be found immediately, but it's better than being in a relationship without any love at all.