We are all bound to get into a verbal shouting match or argument at some point in our life. No one likes to be in an dispute with another person but no matter how hard we try they are bound to happen. Read on to learn how to how to resolve an argument as quick as possible.
First, you should try to get to the bottom of what you and the other person are arguing over. This is the most important step. This will help you develop a plan of action to diffuse the argument later on. If you can get to the bottom of what started the argument then maybe the two of you can come up with an agreement or even realize that what you are arguing about is not that serious.
You need to also listen to what the other person is saying. Pay attention to what message they are trying to convey to you and why they may feel the way they feel. You will be better off letting them do more talking than you do initially. If you can bite your tongue and hold your cool then you may be able to diffuse the situation better and formulate a plan to get your feelings across and resolve the argument.
Once that person has said what they have to say, then say what you have to say and speak what's on your mind. Although cursing or bad mouthing them may be the first thing you want to do, you should discipline yourself to refrain from doing this and talk to the person with dignity and respect. Avoid speaking in a harsh or loud voice too if possible! Get what you have off of you hchest and look to see if you can find ways to fix the problem.
Use a 3rd party or peer mediation to help you and the person you are arguing with come to an agreement. If this 3rd party can make a fair, unbiased decision for the two of you, then it will make the situation go a lot smoother and get the issue resolved. Be sure to choose someone who will share with you their unbiased, objective opinion.
Lastly, you want to always come to an agreement or get some type of closure from the argument before parting ways. This is important!!! If not, then you run the risk of not only the problem not being solved, but even more measures possible being taken which can make the situation worse. Use your reasoning skills, listen, and speak what's on your mind, and most importantly, get the argument or problem solved!!! If you don't then the problem will escalate and only make things worse.
I hope these tips will help you overcome your problems and resolve the next argument you are in. Good Luck!