Every New Year’s Eve or even birthdays, people make goals for the upcoming year ahead of them. You know exactly what you want to do, have a mental list and maybe even a concrete list already typed out to hold you accountable. You think by having this list of goals that you will do. Or, at least that is what people say. “You need to have goals in order to be successful.”

You may even already have your actions plans all mapped out for your goals. All you have to do is count: one, two, three…go!

Alas, it really isn’t that simple is it? I can’t just motivate myself by writing down a goal on a post-it-note and really believe that in an indefinite amount of time I’ll be able to cross that goal off my master list. For myself, sometimes the list of goals complicates or frustrates me more than it actually helps.

Your list can get pretty long when you sit down and think about what you really want. It can actually make you feel very muddled. Which goal is the most important? How long will it take me? What if I don’t achieve it!?

I, personally, had a hard time dealing with it and this is why.

A couple of years ago, I sat down and set out a dozen goals. I had that list of goals up on my bulletin board in plain view so I could see it anytime of the day. The goals were varying, from growing my family, business expanding and even purchasing a house.

I gave myself only one year to have a check mark beside every personal goal. Not really the most realistic thing. In just 6 months I gave up. There was just too much I was focusing on that I lost sight of each goal I had set.

It was my own personal shame that I felt like I was a failure. When I started draining the toilet, I did the only thing I could – ditch the plan and start fresh.

You need to keep your goals as basic as possible. And this can actually mean singling down everything you want to just one goal. That’s right, only one personal life goal. However, you need to make it demanding, realistic and it has to be huge!

Three steps have been laid out to urge you to review and reorganize your goals. It will essentially help you discover your ideal lifestyle.

Step 1: Identify your big personal goal

Imagine a picture of your entire life. Ensure it is a futuristic picture, looking down the road 5, 10 or even 20 years. What are you doing? Are you working on your own, owning your own business, do you work under someone, are you travelling? Make sure you write all the details down.

What is on the top of your list: work, family, travel, property, etc?

This is the most important question of them all: What probability do you want your personal goal to come true? 99%, 50%, 150%? If you badly want it to be true than this is the right goal. Your personal goals need to make you feel purposeful and motivate your life. Use your known talents since with no energy, your goals will only remain a though.

Once you have recognized what personal goal is most important you need to immortalize it. Write it down, plasticize it, post it up. Make sure you read it on a daily basis. Robert Shemin taught me to own a wealth check. Lets say we choose financial freedom as our personal goal. A wealth check goes a little something like this:

  • Date: When exactly do you want to be financially free? By the time I’m 40
  • Amount: What is your goal income per month at that age?  Lets say ~12500
  • Services: What type of service can you offer to help reach your goal? Sharing my knowledge with others in order for them to do the same
  • Pledge: Put your signature on this wealth check and keep it on you every day. Since you signed it you have to hold up that pledge on your personal goal.

Step 2: Select the path you will take to reach your goal

As you can see, this refers to your [services] section of your wealth check. You need to offer something to help move you along the way. How will you help the world?

Will you work for yourself, under your boss? Will you sell a service, a product or maybe even property!?

What you need to remember when choosing your path is that it needs to support your personal goal. In our example, we put down that we wanted to earn $12500 every month but this isn’t going to happen if you are working behind the counter at a sports store. Maybe, if you can work your way to owning a franchise of the store it may be possible.

Step 3: Plan your journey

Make sure you don’t get caught up make lists and planning. Get out there and find tasks that will help you reach your goal. Seek out what you need to physically do to get ahead.

True,  it is best if you can keep a list of them and have them organized into completion date. This will help you remain focused but stay in the short term and don’t set dates past a few months time.

If you are one of those people who finds satisfaction in crossing out completed tasks from your list, then do it! But only once it is truly done. Once you can cross it off, you are able to jump to whatever is next on your list. Try to remember what activities you are doing on a daily and weekly basis.

And finally, don’t stress out if you aren’t on track to reaching your goal. If you can’t complete a task when you said you would then do another that you can complete and come back and finish the previous task when possible. Remember to mark and rejoice the successes you achieve alone the way. This will keep you going.

The best thing to do is write them down and assign dates to them. Timelines will keep you focused and accountable. Ideally, your to-do list must cover work activities for the next three months.

Once a certain task has been completed, cross it out and move onto the next one. To keep you on track, you must monitor the number of tasks you complete in each month or week.

Keeping going and always remember your ultimate personal goal.