Having great mornings with the kids gets both parents and their offspring off to a good day ahead. Terrific starts for the family make for better ones all around. In addition, a routine of these accounts for a more functional family atmosphere.
Want to have a wonderful one as often as possible? One vehicle to use to meet this is having a morning that makes everyone have good feelings when they leave the house. Make certain you do this as often as you can. Focus on starting out with an encouraging note and discover how much better things will flow for everyone involved.
A beginning with an upbeat and affirmative atmosphere has a nine-ninety nine percent chance of continuing in this same frame of mind as you go about your daily activities. This means for any one getting underway with the opposite feelings will follow through without constructive moods and behaviors. Who wants to have a bad day on purpose? When you are able to do something about it, act on it. These are several tools to use to make the best outcome happen as often as possible.
Children who have more positive involvements than negative ones will have more constructive living on average. More than a few studies hold this as a true statement. Parents tell you from personal experience when their offspring have a great start things go better for everyone in the household for that entire 24 hour period.
Kids in a confident atmosphere leaving the house carry this same state of mind with them. They are more positive with school work and a general outlook on life. They are less likely to suffer from depression and carry this optimistic feeling through to relationships with other adults and peers.
This means consistently performing upbeat actions as they head out the door will continually engage them in more encouraging behavior and feelings.
Know what to expect
Knowing what to expect, even expecting a good morning, makes a negative one less likely to happen. Having a look to the future is less stressful. You can see a difference with even a small peek.
Show them what to will happen without confusion. No confusion on a child’s part with the a.m. routine makes the show run smoother. Less back talk and less nagging from both parties usually takes place. For an example, if flossing happens with teeth brushing before leaving for school, hiccups re less likely with the schedule when it comes to getting the job done right.
Discuss tasks the night before or talk about it over the weekend to begin the routine on Monday before starting out. This means you ask questions and answer them beforehand and not in a hurry which has the potential to make everyone flustered and the possibility things will go badly and not better.
Giving rewards for good conduct means a lot. The age of the child will decide what kind and which one you will give. Smaller ones respond well to positive reinforcement in the form of charts prominently displayed for others to admire. This is one of the easier and quicker types many people like.
Build a chart for your morning routine tasks alone or include other household duties as well. If you show these as stars or sunshine faces for a job well done, make the update immediately before heading out the door.
Older ones will do well with both immediate and delayed ones. Always give them a pat on the back that says a job well done for even the smallest ones done well. Even thank you works well. Immediate expression to them generally means things will flow without a hitch getting started.
A great idea for a delayed one for older offspring is extra time to do things. Television time or going to bed a little later is wonderful and gives them a sense of control. It does not have to be a lot. Though, an extra 10 or 15 minutes for each AM tasks completed without incident or delay means a lot to a 13 or 14-year-old. This will even work if they take the entire time in increments.
This could be converted to one hour and 15 minutes past the usual bed time on Friday evenings. How about extra television minutes weekend nights in the form of 45 minutes each evening? Extra hours at the library or choosing a movie to rent on Sunday afternoon works well too. Strive to hand these out when they have done an entire week of activity and not a single incident.
Remember, strive for consistency. One instance is not a routine. A regular schedule of completion will create uniformity and promotes harmony with one another. Both of you will realize what to expect from each other. When A happens then B will follow.
Not knowing what will happen from day-to-day or hour to hour creates anxiety. This certainly does not mean there will never be surprises. In fact, some surprises are good. Though, a general idea of a reliable expectation with consistency will make for less nervousness the night before and smoother sailing when they wake and get the day started.
The routine could be a daily or weekly one. They will come to expect things like Wednesdays we will have our instruments ready and leave 15 minutes early because there is band practice today. Therefore, every Wednesday the trombone is ready to go and pack the car and be ready 15 minutes earlier than the rest of the weekdays.
Get everyone on the same page with preparedness for the morning. Organizing everything the night before as much as possible is wonderful. This is true for weekends as well as weekdays. Even spending Sunday evening organizing whatever is possible for the entire week has advantages.
Save time not doing unnecessary tasks. There is less apprehension and stress about possible time constraints that everyone has experienced. The saved time is when a family relaxes and exchanges light banter or conversation letting everyone leave with a smile. This precious time is not lost hunting for missing items everyone knew they needed beforehand. For an example, if taking a cold lunch and knowing the lunch box was ready to go will be less stressful for all.
Not being ready accounts for unnecessary worry making for a lousy beginning to what could have been an extraordinary day. Families with less than perfect ones will recover. However, an exceptionally lousy one does have a negative emotional state carried into the hours ahead. Avoid the feelings of nervousness or unease when possible.
This does not mean everyone functions in robot status. When you have a chance having as much ready as a routine when possible makes difference.
There are several things as a parent you should do to make certain sons and daughters have much better mornings which leads to better days for everyone involved.
These ideas and tools sound wonderful, but reality always steps in. You are responsible for raising offspring in a comfortable and positive atmosphere for these formative years. Do as much as possible to see that occur by following many, if not all of these for that precious time together before greeting the world.