Things You Will Need To Attract A Cancer
Act With Dignity
A Cancer will not get involved with anyone that they do not respect. Thus it is imperative that you cultivate an image of dignity and respectability. Cancers are fond of things that are traditional and classic. When trying to attract a cancer this translates to acting serious, dressing well, and being clean cut. Cancers are attracted to those with strong goals and plans for the future, so feel free to discuss your ambitions, and career hopes. Be careful not to act too self aggrandizing. Cancers crave honesty, and if you are too boastful they will not take you seriously. Also make sure to stay away from being overly casual, or silly, Cancers like to keep relationships formal, especially before they know and trust you.
Cancers are highly sensitive, and fear rejection above all. Try to understand that cancers are always over thinking their interactions with others and are overly aware of anything that could be taken as an insult. Never joke about anything that the Cancer takes seriously, or about anything they are going through. Well you may see joking as making the situation easier to deal with and work through, the Cancer will think that you are making fun of them and their problems. Cancers are very insecure, and you need to keep this in mind when talking about personal matters with them. Because of their insecurities, Cancers can often feel excluded, or ignored. Make sure they know how much you care, and that they are a priority in your life. You should also only discuss private matters alone. Cancers do not take well to public criticism, and may well break down if they are forced into public confrontation. Just know that no matter how careful you are, you will offend your Cancer. The goal is to make sure this happens as little as possible, and to repair the damage quickly by being attentive and understanding.
Always Be Empathetic
Cancers are very moody by nature and you have to always be mindful of this. If you are insensitive to the Cancers changing moods, or brush off their feelings as fickle, they will become deeply offended. Instead you need to learn to understand and anticipate their moods. Once you know how to gauge their moods, the best way to deal with them is to mimic their mood. If your Cancer is feeling down, take on the sombre mood out of empathy. Likewise if they are in a happy mood, be light and happy yourself. By going along with their moods you can help to bring them into a more positive mood by gently and slowly changing your own mood. Since Cancers are so empathetic, they are likely to respond to your gently changing mood by changing with you. Learning your Cancer's moods is also great thing to do because Cancers often feel like they are alone and difficult to understand. Your attempts to understand their moods and feelings will make them feel understood and wanted. This will greatly help to alleviate that trademark Cancer insecurity.
Create A Sense Of Security
Cancers crave security and stability. It is very important to give them this. Do this by being strong and steady in your actions. Cancers can often be indecisive, so they feel comforted when a strong individual gives them guidance and leadership. However do not go overboard, they do not want a dictator to boss them around, just a level headed person to aid them in practical decision making, and help stabilize their life. Cancers love a protector, so always be strong and caring. Treat them with tenderness and show them that you will always be there for them.
Focus On Tradition And The Home
Cancers are traditional and home oriented by nature. You must also have these values in order to attract them. Related to their love of security and stability is their love of the home. They hold family and tradition very dear. They love their environment to be comforting and cozy. When getting to know a Cancer you should try to keep the environment safe and low key. For instance going to a coffee shop is probably a better idea than going to a dance club. Better yet invite your Cancer to your house for a home cooked meal. The feelings of home and family will be sure to endear your Cancer to you. Going along with their fondness for tradition, they love romance and the ritual of courtship. Cancers are exactly the type of partner that appreciates candle lit dinners and walks on the beach. While some signs may be turned off by what they see as clichÃ© romance, the Cancer will thrive on it.
If you follow these steps you should be on your way to winning over your Cancer. At the very least you will have a very deep and rewarding experience trying to get to know the complex and affectionate Cancer. In the end you may decide that the Cancer is too moody, and sensitive to pursue, but you will likely com away with a loyal and trust worthy friend.
Tips & Warnings
-Never try to have a brief fling with a Cancer, this can be very damaging to the sensitive Cancer.
-Always be honest. Bragging and lies are a huge turn off for Cancers.
-Be reliable and strong, the Cancer loves stability and security.
-Be serious and sensible, Cancers don't like joking and silliness.