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How to Become a Happier Person

By Edited Nov 13, 2013 4 12
Smiling Can Help you Becom Happier

What is happiness? Happiness is said to be a state of mind where a person feels satisfaction, pleasure, or contentment. Studies have been conducted to determine what causes or effects happiness. These studies have focused on biological, psychological, philosophical and religious issues.


In a recent study researchers found that 50% of a person's happiness is dependent on one's DNA or genes, but don't be dis-heartened. Another 10 – 15% was attributed to a persons life circumstances such as socio-economic status, employment status, or marital status. That leaves 35 – 40% of ones happiness that is determined by a persons direct actions to effect their happiness. For example exercising, eating a healthy diet, or making a concerted effort to have fun through activities. The action of attempting to enjoy life may also directly or indirectly affect ones socio-economic status, employment status, and other life circumstances. In essence a person should be able to effect up to 50% of their happiness.

Research has also shown that older people tend to be happier than younger people. Whatever the reason older individuals had less stress from their careers, relationships, financial problems, and anger. So, teenagers, take heart life really does get sweeter with age.

Realistically we cannot be happy all of the time. A person has different moods that can be affected by circumstances and incidents beyond the control of an individual. An individual can effect their own happiness by taking positive steps towards that goal.

Here are just a few ideas about how an individual can take a proactive roll in increasing their level of happiness:


  1. Be optimistic – Don't automatically assume the worse all of the time. Some people try to protect themselves from failure by either not trying something or assuming it won't work out. This attitude can predetermine the outcome and eliminate any chance of success. Assume you will be successful and your confidence will show. Sometimes confidence is the edge you need in being successful.

  2. Trust your gut feeling. Your instinct is more important than you realize. Your 'gut feeling' or instinct is based upon knowledge you have gained through life experiences. Sometimes we over-analyze things and look at all the pros and cons and ignore our gut feeling.

  3. Forgive yourself – Many times we are our worst enemy when it comes to forgiveness. We may forgive others, but we hold ourselves to a higher standard. Let go the self-recrimination and vow to do better. You need to forgive yourself and stop beating yourself up emotionally. Say "I forgive myself".

  4. Stay close to family and a few close friends. Most people are happier when they keep in contact with their family. A few good friends to talk to and to socialize with is also important since we are social beings. Family can be a great support group when needed and usually with no-strings attached.

  5. Don't Take things too serious – It is important to be serious about certain things some of the time. However, not all things are as important as you would believe. Ask yourself, how important will this be in a day, week, month, year, or when I am old and gray. In the whole scheme of things there are only a few things that are really serious. Get in the habit of asking yourself the question.

  6. Learn when to say "yes" and when to say "no". Don't let people walk all over you or they will keep asking favors of you, say "no", you need that time to do what will really make you happy. Learn to say "yes" to what you want to do and have never allowed yourself the luxury of doing (take that class in photography, belly dancing, or floral arrangement).

  7. Smile – This is an easy one, yet many people forget to do this. Smile often, even when you don't feel particularly happy. The act of smiling may release endorphins and serotonin which are natural pain killers, helping you to feel good.

  8. Laugh – Again, similar to smiling, laughing may release endorphins and serotonin. Practice laughing even when you don't feel like it – you will feel silly doing this, which helps to elevate your mood. Watch a good comedy or listen to jokes and don't hold back.

  9. Learn to give and accept compliments. There is always something you can compliment someone on, try looking. Accept compliments graciously, say "thank you", don't assume there is an ulterior motive.

  10. Give a gift when it is not an anniversary, birthday or holiday. It doesn't have to be expensive. If you listen to what people are saying when they talk, many times they give clues or hints to what would make them happy.

  11. Try doing something that made you happy as a child. Children really know how to be happy. Try riding a merry-go-round, a swing, fly a kite, or watch a butterfly.

  12. Perform acts of kindness without expecting anything in return. Many people are kind because they expect something out of it or it is part of their job description. When you do something kind you will make at least two people's day better (yours and the person you were kind to). Acts of kindness can also be contagious, many times the person you were kind to will do the same for someone else.

  13. Turn on the music and dance. Dance by yourself, with your child, with your spouse or with family. It's amazing how contagious happiness is when you dance.



This is by all means not an exhausted list of things to do to make yourself happy. These are just some ideas to try. Enjoy the small things in life, the things you do every day and make yourself happy. Remember happiness can be contagious, so don't think that a goal of "being happy" is a selfish goal. It might be the best gift you could give your family and friends as well.



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Comments

Jul 16, 2010 7:42am
Georgie-Coxx
Hi,

I very much enjoyed reading your article on Happiness.

It's very true life is sweeter once you start getting older (like me 60 next year!).

Once the off spring have flown the nest there is more time to do what you want and yes financially things improve. No more arguing siblings etc.

I love to laugh! To say the least I'm always optimistic about life no matter what comes around the corner. I'm 59 going on 12!

That said, the younger generation have a far more stressful time these days. There is so much emphasise on how you look, have you got the latest designer gear! Do you come from the right side of town. These things were not active in my time as a teenager nor as a child.

Your advice on how to bring happiness into your life is great - hope you get more reviews because your article is has some sound good advice.

Georgie
Jul 24, 2010 4:42pm
Jaydoo
Thank you for the comment, I have a few more years before I hit 60 and am glad to read the research that shows older people tend to be happier.
Jul 16, 2010 12:08pm
eileen
Great advice, Happines is in the eye of the beholder. I used to get called happy, but it was because they thought I looked unhappy. I told them I couldnt help the way my face looked .. I was happy inside. We should all laugh and try to make others happy too. great article rated up.
Jul 24, 2010 4:43pm
Jaydoo
I have to make an effort to smile more, otherwise people think I am upset. Now they wonder why I have that constant little smile, it keeps them wondering what I know. LOL
Jul 16, 2010 2:45pm
JHKersey
Great article on becoming a happier person. I think that is something we could all workon.
Jul 24, 2010 4:40pm
Jaydoo
You are so right, it is something that I am always working on.
Jul 20, 2010 11:26am
Introspective
Laughter is so important! Nice article Jaydoo!
Jul 22, 2010 1:22am
Jaydoo
Thank you, I'm glad you liked the article,
Jul 26, 2010 12:55pm
javrsmith
I like your #1 point, be optimistic. Too often the world is not.
Aug 4, 2010 6:53pm
Margielynn
Great article, I too am 60 and loving it!
Aug 5, 2010 8:47am
Jaydoo
I enjoyed writing this article. thank you for your comment.
Sep 5, 2010 4:05pm
thinkwrite17
Jaydoo - These are great approaches to creating happiness. I'm realizing with age that I'm easier going and definitely much happier. There's still stress in life situations over which I have no control - I'm a caregiver to 2 elderly ladies. But we never have to look far to find someone who has it worse off than we do - the key is to be grateful and to recognize our many blessings!
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