Photo by Nevit Dilmen How to Break Up with a Guy


If you learn how to break up with a guy properly, you will be making the entire process easier on both of you. That doesn't mean that there won't still be hard feelings, but you can do it in such a way that you don't come out of the relationship looking so much like the bad guy.

Explain Exactly Why You're Breaking Up

Don't beat around the bush with all too common sayings like, "I just need some space," or "I want to take a break." Most people can see right through this, and they will continue to feel that you are not revealing the real reason you want to end things, and you probably aren't. The truth may hurt, but honesty is always the best policy. At least he won't have to go around wondering "why?" if he knows why.

Don't Make Empty Promises

One of the most important things to keep in mind when you're learning how to break up with a guy is not to say things you don't mean. People often start feeling guilty when the other person gets upset and may say things like, "We can still be friends," or "I'll still call you, we can still hang out." If you have no intention of following up on these promises, don't make them. The broken promises will just hurt the other person more.

Break Up in Person if Possible

Breaking up with someone via text, phone, IM or any other method other than face-to-face is cowardly. In some cases, such as long-distance relationships, it may have to be done this way. However, if it is possible to do it person, that's what you should do. A face-to-face breakup will show respect for the other person and the relationship. Doing things any other way makes you look bad and is very impersonal. The other person will likely feel insulted if they get dumped like this.

Don't Call After the Break Up

One of the biggest mistakes some people make when learning how to break up with a guy is calling the other person after the break up to check on them. This should be avoided unless the other person is completely unstable and you are fearful they may do something drastic. Calling will only give him hope that you may want to reignite the relationship and make break up survival harder for him. It's best if he doesn't hear from you at all. If he calls you, keep the conversation short and stick to your guns about your decision.

Over time, he will get over it. People almost always do. It's likely that you won't be his favorite person no matter how you go about the break up, but at least you'll know that you handled it in a way you can be proud of. Following these tips on how to break up with a guy will help with break up survival for both you and the other person.