Yes, the lord promises us divine health and it is actually our heritage, to be healthy. He promises to deal with our adversaries, including sicknesses.
“But if thou shalt indeed obey his voice and do all that I speak, I will be an enemy to thine enemies and adversary to thine adversaries. And ye shall serve the Lord your God and he shall bless thy bread and thy water and I will take sickness away from the midst of thee” Exodus 23:22 & 25.
Ever wondered then how come, somehow, sometimes, we find ourselves afflicted by one sickness or another. Well, this does not mean in any way that the promises of God have failed but rather because of some reasons, such as wandering away from His protection and consorting with sin
“…Whoso breaketh an hedge, a serpent shall bite him” Ecclesiastes 10:8.
At other times, it could just be to test our faith. It could also be for God to show His might and glory.
“Jesus answered, neither hath this man sinned nor his parents but that the works of God should be made manifest in him” John 9:3.
However, it is also worthy of note that no matter the cause of affliction, healing is also very possible through Him.
“But unto you that fear my name shall the Sun of righteousness arise with healing in His wings and ye shall go forth and grow up as calves of the stall” Malachi 4:2.
So, what if your husband takes ill, how would you take care of him? Here are a few tips to taking care of a sick husband.
Be Confident of God’s Promises
In the light of the foregoing scriptural references, it is clear that God desires that your husband be healed. What is paramount in life is that God makes everything beautiful in His own time, including healing your sick husband. Just remind God of His promises and watch Him rise to the occasion.
Confession of Sin
Healing actually predates sickness and begins from the way your family lives. Once you have done your bit by living righteously, the rest is easy. When tending to your sick husband, it is important that you recognise that the sickness could be as a result of sin. So, there may be need for both of you to confess your known and unknown sins. Once the accuser of the brethren has nothing to hold against you or your husband, his healing will take place sooner than later.
Sickness is not exclusive to anyone. So, when your husband is sick, imagine you are the one. How would you love your husband to treat or care for you assuming you were the sick one? An honest answer to this would determine how much care you would render to your sick husband at his low moment of sickness. In other words, care for him as much as you would want him to care for you if you were sick.
You also must realise that marriage means you are the closest person to your husband and no other person but you could ever give him a better care than you. In fact, everybody expects that you are naturally responsible for him at this point in time. Only you could nurse him back to health because of the covenant both of you entered to love and cherish each other for better and for worse. As a matter of fact, this time of sickness could foster closer bond between you if well managed. This is because it is a moment of reality that you need each other more and must stand by each other. So, spend as much time as possible with him and do all you possibly can to comfort him until he is back on his feet.
Men are usually restless beings. For most men, even sickness cannot slow them down. A caring wife must ensure that her sick husband gets enough rest. She should insist he remains in bed and shut out all distractions, including visitations and phone calls until he is strong enough to attend to them. Do not allow any unpleasant news to get to him at all, no matter the necessity. You should also resist the urge to maintain ceaseless chatter and allow him to get maximum rest in order to increase his recovery rate regain his strength.
Men like pampering. Treat him like a baby and make loving fusses around him. It makes him feel loved and wanted and this could do wonders in boosting his recovering rate. Keep him company, even if you are in a separate apartment. Knowing that you are nearby at his beck and call is reassuring. Do small runs for him, asking him what he would want you to do for him. You may go as far as telling him funny stories (don’t overdo it) or play him his favourite music soothingly to lull him to sleep. Sick time is a period your husband would love to play the baby once more. Oblige him and play the role of loving, dutiful mom.
Ensure Clean Environment
You must make an issue of cleanliness. The house, especially the room in which he is recuperating, must be spick and span. Sterilise everything to keep out germs, which caused his sickness in the first place and could worsen his state if allowed to thrive or multiply.
Feed Him Well
Nothing facilitates healing than foods. In moments like this, what your husband needs is intake of enough fluids and healthy foods – juices, beverages, soups – and, of course, right quantities of balanced nourishing foods, rich in nutrients, proteins, vitamins and carbohydrates. He may even refuse them but just as you would not let your little child go unfed because he does not feel like eating, you must ensure that you feed him well enough, whether he has appetite or not.
It’s a Sacrifice
The truth is that your husband may not even appreciate your efforts. Nevertheless, you should not consider your efforts a waste of your time. Consider everything as a sacrifice that is expected of a truly loving wife. Put your own interests aside. It is not a time to bother about your own welfare apart from taking precautionary measures to avoid being similarly infected. No matter the strain on you, go all out and nurse your husband back to health. You will be happy you did.
Sometimes, taking care of a sick husband could be really exasperating and quite unnerving. However, you should not lose your temper and resort to complaining or nagging. You would only be slowing down his recovery if you did that and thereby prolonging your own suffering. Bear the inconvenience with stoic optimism and ask God for the grace to get over this trying period, which is a mere temporary setback.
Let’s face it; there is nothing cheery about a period of sickness. It is a time of mental drain and the devil would fill your head with a lot of negative thoughts; even inflicting you with the fear of imminent death. Sometimes, the medical reports do little to assuage our fear and in fact, it makes matters worse sometimes. However, don’t despair; remain positive in your confession as words are very powerful.
“And they overcame him by the blood of the lamb and by the word of their testimony…” Revelation 12:11.
That is why you need ample doses of the word of God on which to anchor your speech and faith. If you are knowledgeable about promises of God and are prayerful, you will remain upbeat and reclaim your husband through positive thoughts and confession.
“Say unto them, As truly as I live, saith the Lord, as ye have spoken in mine ears, so will I do to you” Numbers 14:28.
Give Him His Drugs
You must also get him to take his drugs as prescribed. One thing is to have faith and another thing to get your faith to work. Faith in God is not anti-medicine1; both work in harmony to rebuild the body. Get your husband to do all that is medically needful for him to recover while relying on the fact that it is only God that can make the drugs achieve desired results.
In summary, God did not create sickness for His children. Sadly, for whatever reasons, sickness has become part of our earthly journey. A permanent state of good health or divine health is possible though. However, even when one is afflicted by sickness, just like your husband, divine healing is also possible, with or without medical science, if only we take necessary steps to bring it to pass.
“If thou wilt diligently hearken to the voice of the lord thy God and wilt do that which is right in his sight and wilt give ear to his commandments and keep all his statutes, I will put none of these diseases upon thee, which I have bought upon the Egyptians for I am the lord that healeth thee” Exodus 15:26.
Therefore, go ahead and care for your sick husband as is required of you based on your marital vows. With adequate care and faith in the Lord, he will get well again, scoring one more victory over Satan and enable you to continue enjoying your marriage.