I grew up in a home with domestic violence and married into a home much like it, minus the alcoholism. When growing up in such an environment, or having a relationship with someone who abuses you, you often learn to develop coping skills. You may also develop character traits that help you hide your pain. These consist of:
• Co-dependent traits
• People pleasing
• Make excuses
• Fear of your partner
• Often think you are the one who is crazy
These are just a few examples that might solidify that you are in an abusive relationship. One in four women has experienced domestic violence in their lifetime. Nearly six million women are victims of domestic violence annually. These numbers are staggering.
Once I was able to identify what was happening to me, I began to seek help and to escape from my abuser. I experienced almost forty years of abuse (sixteen growing up, and nineteen years of marriage) before I discovered what the problem was. I am grateful that this issue has become more evident as people like Dr. Phil is developing and showing programs that relate to the subject matter.
If you or someone you love is in danger, or involved in a bad relationship that is causing pain and injury, you can call the national hotline listed below. As an honorary member of the Texas Council of Family Violence, I can assure you that there is help available for women and men just like you. Yes, I said men. Men also are victims of abuse, but rarely will they come forward asking for help. Do you want to know more on how to deal with domestic violence? Call for help today. 1-800-799-SAFE. You can also go to the National Domestic Violence Website.