Emotional Clutter is a build-up of negative emotions such as hurt, anger and self-limiting beliefs that are manifested from past experiences, and emotional clutter from others. This clutter is excess baggage that causes disorganization, undue stress and feelings of being out of control. Clutter affects your self-confidence, the image you present to others and can stop you from achieving your goals. It can invade your space without warning and linger to the point where it can take over your life, making it hard to sort out what is important and what needs to go to the trash. If you can learn to make this separation in your life, you will begin to notice a new calmness that will free you.
Things You Will NeedDesire to rid yourself of emotional clutter
Journal & pen
Willpower and persistence
Step 1The first step is to realize and admit to yourself that you are suffering from emotional clutter and the resolve to do something about it.
Step 2Identify your emotional clutter. The best way to identify things that are going on inside you is to put it into writing. Start a journal, making a list of your complaints, angers, anxieties, fears, self-concept barriers and anything else that comes to mind. Don't rush the process. Take a week, or two if needed with your brainstorming sessions, adding things to the list as they crop up. When adding your entries, leave a space or two below each for later.
Step 3Eliminate and manage the physical clutter in your living and or work space. Clutter is a pungent form of physical and emotional procrastination. This physical clutter is the outcome of inner chaos that torments many people. More simply put, when we feel cluttered inside, we create clutter outside.
Step 4Diffuse (let go of) your worries. For each item on the identification list in your journal, write down what you could do to eliminate each of them. Focus on and act upon on the solutions, tossing them out of your mind and to the curb.
Step 5Never go to bed with unfinished business and newly acquired worries. Even though you may have worked hard, there are those days that you feel as if you haven't accomplished much, or have acquired another worry about something or another. To help prevent the entry of more worries that crop up daily, set aside enough time before retiring each evening to take a relaxing shower or bath. Let the worries roll off of your back and down the drain along with the water. Think about the positive things that you have done or need to do, entering them in your journal. Put on some soothing music, close your eyes and meditate for a few minutes. Cleanse your mind of everything and pray for guidance to focus upon the positive changes that you desire in your life.
Step 6Conserve positive energy. Surround yourself with people that have a positive flow of energy. Steer clear of those that drain you with negativity and pessimism. Negative influences can aggravate your emotional trash and hold you back from focusing on the positive change that you are striving for in your life. If your partner is the one with negative energy, be honest and candid with them. Share your journal with them and give them a chance to respond to your feelings. By opening the lines of communication, you will not only improve your relationship, but also release more of the clutter for a more fulfilling, quality life.
Step 7If you are struggling with these techniques and they don't seem to help, you may want to consult a Psychotherapist, Life Coach or Spiritual Counselor for in-depth professional guidance. Eliminating your emotional clutter by tossing it to the curb will greatly reduce the stress in your life, giving you more confidence and a clear mind to tackle the goals that you are striving for.
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