The state of being in love is not something that you can force on someone. The reasons why people fall in love are not truly known and there really is no set formula you can use to make it happen.

You don't need to worry though, one thing you do have control over is yourself and your actions. While you may not be able to force someone to fall in love with you, you can make it easier for them to fall in love with you if they so choose. So let's make the conditions desirable!

So how do you do this? Make yourself more desirable. No, this is article is not about looks, but about your personality, your true essence. Besides, looks will only get you so far and you know they never last.

Your personality or who you really are deep down inside is what will make the magic happen. It is true when they say to just be yourself because you are a special individual and extremely unique. If it's right, it will happen.

So what's the secret to making conditions desirable, besides being yourself? First, you can start by paying attention to what your intended is saying. Listening and hearing are very different from each other. You can hear what someone is saying but not really listen to them.

Engage them in conversation. Take a real interest in what they have to say and don't just hog the entire date or phone call talking endlessly about yourself and all your attributes. Doing so is a sure way to invoke the opposite intention.

Take the focus off of you and put it on them. Ask questions and show them that you are truly interested in them.

The little things really do count. Ask him or her about their day. What did they do and how are they feeling now? Be supportive when they are feeling down. Remember that just because someone has a problem does not mean they want you to solve it! Many times the person may just want a shoulder to cry on and someone to sympathize with their situation.

Laughter is one of the keys to people's hearts. Be silly and learn to laugh at yourself. Your potential love may appreciate your funny side. There is nothing better than having a good laugh at the end of a very bad and miserable day. You know you have had one before and it feels good to have some emotional relief.

Do not forget to be kind to others and to yourself. The way you treat others, no matter what their position, is a direct reflection on you. Treat everyone with respect and courtesy as you would like to be treated.

I have seen one too many couples on first dates eating at restaurants and someone at the table is treating the poor waiter like a second class citizen. This is the real test of a person's character.

Have respect for yourself, for others and you will be respected and earn their loyalty in return, and maybe even their love.