So you've got your eye on a guy. You think he's cute, interesting, and funny. You want to get to know him better.... but he doesn't even know you exist! Or maybe he knows you exist but doesn't see you as anything more than a friend. What can you do? How can you get a guy to like you? Read on....
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Be yourself.You've probably heard this one before, and there's a reason for it! This is one of the best tips around for getting a guy to like you, yet it's also the one that is most likely to be ignored!
Don't change for anyone but yourself. Say your guy is into a certain style of music. You want him to like you. It's okay to learn about new bands, but if you don't really like those bands, don't pretend like you do. If he's into motorcycles and you just don't get the appeal, don't worry about it! It can be a turn-off to have a girlfriend that is into every single thing the guy likes. Have your own personality- don't be scared to like something he doesn't like. Who wants to be with someone exactly like themselves?
Make eye contact.Make eye contact. Making eye contact lets him know that you have noticed him. You know how you can often feel when someone's eyes are on you? Same thing here- he'll notice that you are paying him attention. Once you have him glance at you, catch his gaze now and then. Don't stare at him, but glance back from time to time. You can act shy while this is going on (or you may have no choice!)- when he looks at you, blush and avert your eyes. Don't do so like you're ashamed, but more like you are so smitten by his good looks that you're trying not to stare but can't help but look.
Smile!Once you have caught his eye, smile at him! If you don't look friendly he may think he's done something to offend you, or that he has a big stain on his clothes or something. Guys can be just as scared to approach girls and they probably won't approach you if they don't think you're interested. Smiling is a great way to let him know that you notice him... and you like what you see!
Practice smiling in the mirror. You don't want your smile to look goofy or forced. You want it to look natural and sexy. Think about how sexy you look- believe in your sexiness (it's there!). Think sexy thoughts and let your smile be a natural expression of this sexiness. If you're uncomfortable with this, that's fine. As was mentioned, you don't want your smile to be forced- just make sure it's genuine! A genuine smile will light up your eyes as well as the rest of your face.
Put yourself in his way.Find a way to interact with him. Ask to borrow a pen. Comment on something he is wearing (but make sure it's a genuine comment!). If you have a friend in common, have your friend introduce the two of you. Plan beforehand light, casual things you can ask him or talk to him about so you're not standing there nervously staring! For example, you can ask him how they both know each other (directing the question towards him). Then try to find a common interest- ask him what he likes to do on the weekends or if he has any hobbies or passions.
If you want to take it further, find out what he's interested in, where he hangs out, what clubs or sports he's in, and be there! Don't overdo it by stalking him, but occasionally show up where you think he will be. The more he sees you around, the likelier he is to notice you!
Show your sense of humor.Guys like a girl who can laugh and enjoy herself. Let him know that you're this sort of girl! If you are with a friend and are trying to get a guy to notice you, laugh if your friend says something funny. If you're lucky enough to be hanging around your crush and he says something funny, giggle or laugh at it to show him you appreciate his humor and have a sense of humor yourself. Be sure it's a genuine laugh and not forced.
Speak to him... with your body.Body language can be a powerful thing, but it's something that most of us don't even think about. You can use it to your advantage however, when you want to get a guy to like you! There are plenty of books on the subject that can go in depth about body language, but here are a few pointers:
- Mimic his body language. This means doing with your body what he is doing with his. If he shifts his body one way, do the same. The key is to do this very subtly- or else he may think you're making fun of him!
- Invade his personal space. When you're talking, lightly touch his arm. This is a sign that you want to get to know him better.
- Don't cross your arms. Crossing your arms is a way of closing yourself off from the world and so it's a sign that you are not interested and do not want to be interacting.
Get advice.If you have a close guy friend, you should ask his opinion on how you come across to other guys! It can be hard to get a good subjective view of ourselves. There are many things we do habitually that we're not even aware of. Some of these things may be a turn off- slouching, or maybe tapping your feet when you're nervous, which can give the impression that you're in a hurry and don't want to talk. Asking someone to point out a few flaws can really help you turn into a better person- just don't take them too personally... and don't ask if you don't really want to know! Guy friends may be especially good to ask because they see you from a guy's perspective and might notice things girls don't!
Listen.Some people talk a lot, especially when they're nervous. Once you are in a conversation with the guy you like, be sure to listen to what he has to say instead of hogging the whole conversation. When you listen- really listen, it is a sign that you care about him and what he has to say.
Be assertive.If all else fails and you really like the guy, be assertive: take the initiative and ask him out! Like some girls, some guys are really shy! He may just be too scared to come talk to you or ask you out. The worst that can happen is that he will say no- in which case, don't make a big deal out of it. But you may never know if you don't try- and you could miss out on a wonderful guy! Array
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