One of the most studied and discussed things in the world is how to have a happy marriage. There have been countless books, seminars and magazine articles claiming to know all the secrets.

Does anyone know exactly how to have a happy marriage? Sure! Forget about the divorce rate for moment and think about all the couples that have been married for 20, 40, even 50 or more years. How do they do it? It's really not very hard at all. Let's look at some simple steps.

Choose wisely. This is so important. To have a happy marriage you have to start before you get married. Take your time when choosing a mate, and don't let those intense feelings that come along with falling in love blind you to reality.

They say love is blind but it shouldn't be. Pay attention and if your gut is telling you something's wrong, listen to it! Don't ignore red flags thinking he'll change. It never happens.

Communicate. Nothing is more important in our how to have a happy marriage kit than communication. Without it there is nothing. Talk about your dreams, your feelings, and your fears. Don't be afraid to open up.

When arguments and conflicts happen (and they do, even in the happiest of marriages) its important talk them out. Don't give each other the cold shoulder or go to bed angry if you can help it, and don't ever assume your spouse knows what's wrong or what you're thinking. Chances are they haven't a clue.

Give each other space. It's true that a married couple should be each other's best friends, but don't let that stop you from having other best friends and friends in general.

The happiest, healthiest marriage s are those in which both partners have rich and full social lives and interests with and without each other. Expecting your spouse to be your entire world isn't healthy.

Don't take each other for granted. It happens once you're with someone for a long time, but try not to let it happen.

Always take the time to remind yourselves and each other why you fell in love in the first place. Have a regular date night and always find time for intimacy. Those are the things that will keep your bond strong.

Well l there you have it, the simple secrets of how to have a happy marriage. Marriage is a blessing-celebrate it!

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