There are many different ways to look for your birth parents, but no matter what approach you take it is a difficult process. The information that adoptees are allowed to access is limited, so you will need to do some research on your own.
Things You Will Need
1. Basic information surrounding your birth and adoption
3. Internet access
Collect all of the information that you can about your birth parents. Ask questions of anyone who might possibly be able to help you, starting with your adoptive parents. If cooperative, they will be your best source of knowledge short of gaining access to the actual adoption records.
Identify which state the adoption took place in. Laws vary from one state to the next, so it's vital to find out which state the adoption was finalized in and learn the basics of regulations regarding adoption there.
Request the information that adoptees are legally permitted to have. This will often include things like ethnicity of birth parents, their ages, occupations, reason for giving the child up for adoption and whether or not they had other children. While these facts won't lead you directly to your birth parents, they may provide excellent clues to help in your search.
Check with the reunion registry in the state where the adoption took place. Many states have these registries, also known as adoption registries, which allow birth parents, adopted children and other family members to make identifying information available in the event that they are being searched for.
Do a little detective work. Follow up on each clue that you have, such as the hospital you were born in, your birth parents' old address, any information about their employment, etc. You may be met with several dead ends, but you might also find a gem of information that you wouldn't have had otherwise.
Step 6Petition the court to have the records made available to you. If all other attempts to find birth parents have failed, this is the only way to directly access adoption records. You must have a valid reason for making the petition, however, as a desire to meet your birth parents usually will not suffice. A real need for information about your medical history or a legal dilemma is sometimes enough to get the petition granted
Hire a professional searcher. This can be expensive and should be considered a last resort. If you do decide to hire someone, make sure that they are reputable by checking out references from past clients before any money changes hands.
The rewards of finding birth parents can be well worth the effort, providing you with an increased knowledge of your medical history, a new awareness of who you are and priceless new relationships
Tips & Warnings
Remember that all information is potentially useful in your search, no matter how insignificant it may seem at the time.
Organize your information well as you go, this will save much time and frustration.
You are not required to hire an attorney when you petition the court, but it's a good idea to ensure that you have the best chance of having your petition granted.
Prepare yourself for the possibility that your birth parents may not be as anxious for a relationship as you are.